Reader Survey
February 05, 2007
For all of you stay-at-home or work-at-home types.
(The rest of you may return to your precious dignity now, thank you.)
Question 1: When you are at home alone during the day, do you close the bathroom door?
A) If yes, skip to Question 2.
B) If no, do you ever forget and leave the door open when
your significant other is home?
1) If no, skip to Question 2.
2) If yes, do you ever leave the door open when your
significant other is standing like, right there?
a) If no, skip to Question 2.
b) If yes, do you at least apologize?
i) If yes, skip to Question 2.
ii) If no, hi. You are officially gross and sad. Like
me! Let's make out.
Question 2: WELL LA DEE FREAKING DA, ISN'T YOU ALL KINDS OF FANCY?
Welcome to my world!
I'm not a Mom, but I couldn't resist reading ;-)
It is an on going battle in my house because my husband does it all the d*mn time.
And no he does not apologize.
I don't close the door, and I don't apologize [anymore, LoL].
He's seen me naked, and he's watched them cut a 7lb baby out of me. I figure, by now, it's all fair game! :)
doesn't matter if i leave it open or closed, my son always seems to open it right when my husband is walking by and i'm mid wipe, or even worse, changing my girl products.
That's me. Miss Fancy pants. But I do leave the door open in the evenings. But I don't have a significant other. my dogs don't mind.
I work at work and not at home but I still usually manage to leave the door open. :p
I suspect your husband and know my wife would both object to our making out!
Open door.
Keeps the fumes from overcoming the occupant(s) of said bathroom.
My SO is offended that I won't pee in front of him, so he has gone on strike by refusing to pee in front of me. How very odd.
I don't leave the door open but a kid will always come along and open it for me usually mid-wipe and then inspect my body and ask all sorts of personal questions.
I figure if I play my cards right, I may be able to pee alone sometime in 2014.
I lost all my modesty when my feet hit the stirrups for my first prenatal checkup. My husband is lucky if he gets a courtesy flush. Shut the door? I GAVE HIM AN HEIR.
Too funny. I guess there will come a time when we can use the bathroom with the door shut. Of course, one day our sons will be mortified if we don't shut the door. That's when we'll truly be able to get our payback.
I won't even pee in the bathroom while my husband is in the shower. I'm kinda weird like that.
(And I know...I know...I was supposed to skip this all together)
I shut it only when the stepsons are home. Otherwise, never.
I have been known to carry on conversations with my husband while in there. Hey, he's gonna follow me, I'm gonna keep talking.
And yes, I do go in there and pee while my husband's in the shower. I don't flush (while he's in the shower) though. That should get me points, right?
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I close the door. I know we're married and he's seen me in the delivery room but that's just one mystery I'd just as soon like to remain that way. My son has just recently stopped banging on the door wanting to know what I'm doing in there and why can't he come in. But the dog still sits at the door whining to get in!
I didn't make it to Question #2. I am sad and gross...and I don't apologize for it.
Offically not sorry! =)
Um, so it's a bad thing that this is the norm at my house? What can I say--we're just really 'free' around our place. Actually, when I was newly married, my husband was the one to want to shut the door (Slowly but surely I brought him over to the dark side of leaving the door wide open). I'm sure once our kids are older we'll go back to our door shutting ways, but for now...meh...no so much.
DH and I always pee in front of each other. HE makes a big deal if I am taking a crap, but never remembers to close the door when he is....
Oh and we only have one bathroom upstairs, so ....
I leave it open during the day, and have inadvertently left it open at night when my honey is home. He always looks shocked & disgusted, which I don't fully understand ever since he saw our child come out my cooch. (Interestingly enough, during labor, while I was leaking amniotic fluid and hooked up to an IV--which he had to help me with--he still wanted to give me "privacy" when I peed! I really thought we were beyond that at that point.)
But whatever--if he wants to pretend there are any mysteries left between us, I guess I have to let him.
This is funny. I think it depends on the kind of family you grew up in and how many bathrooms you had. There are 4 in my family. We were modest but not prudish. We had one bathroom so if someone needed to brush teeth or shave and someone else needed to use the toilet, we just did. I never thought of it being any other way. We are family. We weren't perverted or overly show-offy. We were modest and covered up, we just did what we had to do when we had to do it.
Now that I'm married, it's the same way. The only time either one of us is grossed out and stays away from the bathroom when the other uses it is when I have my period or my husband had beans for a meal.
Okay, if you are talking about going pee-pee, then I'm with you to the end.
If you are talking about something else? Then I never forget to close the door when Josh is home. We're BOTH freakishly private about that. We actually close three doors, and demand the other person play music or watch TV. I know he's seen me squeeze two small people out of the bajingo, but twosies are not for sharing.
Sometimes I think our doors don't even close! We actually have to remember to close them when other kids are over! Yikes! The older kid is properly mortified and we try to appease him, but the little guy, the hub and I couldn't care less!! You always hit the hot topics Amy! Love ya!
As an addendum to my previous post, once when I was on a business trip and in a hotel, I thought why not? Leave the door open....first time in 12 years pee without son, husband and an assortment of pets trying to get in or yelling through the door. So I left the door open and was feeling pretty darn liberated. Until I realized while sitting there I was in full view of the next buildings windows and looking straight into the conference room where there was a meeting going on. Cripes! Can't even catch a break 200 miles from home without said son, husband or animals. So close the door? Damn skippy I do.
I'm gross and sad!??!!? YEEEESSSSSSS! lol But you did forget one other option: "If yes, do you ever accidentally still forget to close the door when your sister come s to visit and you only forgot because you constantly leave the door open when you husband and child are there you sick sick person?"
Um, people close the door when they go to the bathroom?
After three babies and the attendant doctor check-ups, labor and general sense of "spread em" that seems to come along with Western pregnancy, plus the raising of said small critters.... I gotta get a little bit of "me" back.
I began a campaign of door shutting a little over two months ago. Fancy SCHMANCY! I count it as personal time!
Home alone: Door stays open, regardless of what I'm doing in there.
Home with kids or hubs: Door closed.
I have no dignity to return to. *sob*
Totally gross over here. In fact, if it means the child is climbing up someone else's legs? I'll intentionally pee in the bathroom where he's shaving. Because damn. I like to wipe without a toddler trying to "help" (and yes, yes I do have to remove my son's hands from between my legs every time I try to wipe. Is that normal?)
Are we gross if the only time either of us closes the door is for #2? yes?
Not a SAHM, but can totally chime in here. Being 8 months pregnant (who am I kidding? I did this before too), if I'm just peeing I rarely close the door. Taking a dook on the other hand is an entirely different story—close the door every.single.time.
I do it all. My husband gets mad but he does it. And even when he closes the door he never turns on the fan to obscure the sound of man-pee. The sound of a large amount of urine careening towards the water in the toilet from a high elevation. Hello? That is loud.
Uh, I work from home one day a week, and I am officially as gross as you are. Awesome.
I used to NEVER pee in front of my hubby. Now? Eh. He's seen a giant head smooshed out my vajoojoo. But poo? Door closed. Except when it comes to my toddler. He wants to be in the potty with me no matter what I'm doing. I've lost all dignity pooing with a little boy who wants to sit on my lap and read. Lovely.
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Second, I don't know if it was my husband's time in the army or just that he's so practical/non-squeamish but we leave the door open all the time (unless we'd like privacy for #2). Sometimes we don't even shut the door for that, then one of us walks by, yells 'light a candle' then helpfully shuts the door for the occupied person. In fact, when we have company over, I have to remind myself to shut the door completely.
I have two bathroom door stories for you. I'm on maternity leave, so call me a short-term SAHM. I leave the door open because my 7-week-old doesn't care.
This has slowly led me to not closing the door when my husband is home. Eh, not a big deal. Until Friday night when I did so with company over. Fortunately, I can reach the door from the throne.
My not closing the door has led my husband to leave the door partially open. Which was perfect last night when I needed to narrate the football game for him while he was in there.
I told him the other day, "We've become THOSE people. The baby did it to us. We swore it would never happen and it only took 6 weeks. Sad, really."
I kept the door open when no one else was around until my youngest was over at year. At that point certain female functions returned and I needed either privacy or to answer a bunch of questions from my nearly 3 year old. Now, my kids are almost 5 and 6 1/2 and I do keep the door shut. But now my cats have reclaimed baby position and cry and rattle the door if I shut it.
He'll get over it (husband). Don't dwell.
I had all sorts of modesty when I met my husband. It took him a year of absolutely NO PRIVACY for me before I realized that he didn't care. He's gross like that. So I realized if he didn't care then I don't care. Now that I have a nosy child.. it's like I never had a bit of privacy to begin with. I'm pregnant now with #2 but when I was having periods I always heavily requested my privacy. Thats just too much.
I've been working full-time at home for 2 and 1/2 years. It's gotten so bad that I actually have to remind myself to shut the bathroom door when we have guests. What can I say...the dogs like to come visit me when I'm in there and my husband is never home anyway!
I don't mind peeing in front of my boyfriend. He does it in front of me almost constantly. I did draw the line though after he told me he had something to show me in the bathroom and proceeded to show me his crap. Yeah, no, that wasn't cool.
I just leave the damn door open now. Because even when I used to close the damn door, someone would come barging in anyhow, causing me to yell "Get out of here and shut the damn door!"
Or there would be some 'emergency' that could NOT wait until I returned to the other side of the damn door, leaving someone to yell at me through the damn door.
So, I've saved The Intruders the work of having to open or yell through the damn door, and myself the frustration of having to yell about the damn door.
Yes, I traded dignity and privacy for harmony. I'm a whore.
(But I do still close the damn door for the removal and replacement of feminine hygiene products. And for going Number Two. Because Ewww!)
I don't even break conversation.
My man thinks its kinky. Yep. He keeps thinking it will progress to golden showers. Poor boy!
At home all day with the toddler, so yes the door stays open.
If the hub is home, the door is closed. Always. Cuz blech.
Most of the time, the toddler is in the bathroom with me, trying to go thru my makeup drawer or suck on the toilet brush or unrolling the toilet paper or trying to turn on the water in the shower or....well, you get the picture...while I'm trying to do my bidness.
The joys of motherhood, Part 7,948.2
I came from a household of immodest people and now? I'm freakishly modest. I remember in high school, I wouldn't even change into my pajamas in front of my best friend.
My husband, not so modest. But, I have the door closed, the fan on, and sometimes water running when I'm in the bathroom.
That makes me feel freaky and sad... and also a waster of precious resources.
Oh, did I mention when the hub IS home and I close the door? I still see little fingers poking under the door and hear a muffled, "Ma? Meh? MAMAMAMAMA??!?!??" even when she was occupied with Daddy and I decided to make a break for it to have a few minutes of PRI-VAAA-SEEEEE!
I intend to get her back when she's a teenager. "No, you can't go to the prom because you never left me alone in the bathroom when you were a toddler. I know, Wahhh. Now go tell it to Oprah."
You are supposed to close the door?!! Well, you learn something new everyday!!
Who has any modesty/dignity left after having a child, let alone two? Going potty with the door closed is too dangerous in my house. I need to be able to hear what the monkeys are getting in to!!
But, to each her own! And, I would totally make out with you!! Um, can we have some wine first?!
I left the door open for a good 8 years, the time it took to have 3 children and get them all potty-trained. One day, when all FIVE of us were in the bathroom together, something snapped. (I don't think I was the one on the toilet, but someone was) Within months we had moved into a larger house with my own private master bath and now, door is always closed. I don't even let the cats in with me.