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He Still Has Green Paint All Over His Hands & I Couldn't Be Happier About It

September 18, 2008

I sometimes struggle over what constitutes an entry here...what's an important enough development to put into words and demand your eyeballs and indulgence, or what I should just post on Twitter, or maybe email to friends, or just file away in my own memory.

So this one is just for all of Noah's virtual aunts and uncles and cheerleaders, those of you who never. ever. fail to leave wonderful comments about him and your own children and family members, full of ideas and suggestions (to Liz, who suggested supplying Noah with word choices to encourage him to talk about past events [i.e. did you eat pizza or hamburger buns for lunch? did you go on the slide or hang out with those no-good ruffian beatniks at recess?]: THANK YOU. I gave myself the world's biggest forehead slap for not ever once thinking of trying that, and surprise! It works! Most of the time. I don't THINK his teacher's name is Ms. Pinky Dinky, but maybe I'm wrong).

I picked Noah up from school today -- his first Thursday class ever, and was greeted by his teacher, who was ECSTATIC. He'd had a great day -- his BEST day, thanks to a few new classmates who are a tad less "exuberant" (as she put it) than some of the Monday/Wednesday/Friday kids. Noah seemed less overwhelmed and was happy to play quietly with them throughout the day, following his calm little friends to circle time and snack time. He stayed focused and didn't wander away from the group constantly like he always does. I guess the hyper-verbal and in-your-face kids would bother him and trigger one of his little sensory-overload fits where he needs to step away and flit around the room while reciting scenes from The Incredibles and just...you know, generally be weird for awhile.

People, he FINGERPAINTED today.

His teacher smiled when she told me, and nodded extra-knowingly at my shocked, slack-jawed reaction, because...FINGERPAINTS?

It turns out that in addition to having one boy with PDD-NOS, his teacher ALSO has a son with SID. Mild, like Noah's, but enough. Enough to raise red flags and eyebrows and make you feel like you're constantly strapped on a roller coaster while blindfolded -- are we headed into an upside-down loop-dee-loop or just one of those times where you get turned a little sideways and whipped around the track for a bit?

"I've been through it," she said, "I get it."

Anyway. I'm really happy that Noah will be there five days a week now, and that it was even an option for us -- there were three full-time spots left and a set of twins snagged two of them just hours before I decided to sign Noah up. The money is...well, it is more money and it is more money than I'm probably going to find in our couch cushions...but it's just something we'll make work because we need to make it work.

This blog is going on five years old now, and while I couldn't even count the number of dumb entries I've started and deleted and even published and deleted while trying to figure out what was vaguely post-worthy, I don't think I ever imagined that one day I would sit down to tell the Internet that MY SON FINGERPAINTED, in all caps, like I expected the ceiling to open up and dump balloons and confetti on us.

But here we are. It might not seem like much, just another mother blogging all her insignificant little dreamy dreams and the sort of thing that makes people yell that NO ONE CARES ABOUT YOUR KID, GAWD, but I know a lot of you DO care, and that means so much to me, so fuck everything and bust out your party hats because Noah had a kickass day at preschool and even if tomorrow sucks and I call for that private evaluation next week and end up crying about it and he never touches the fingerpaints again, today was a good, good day.

Posted at 04:18 PM in Noah, SPD, speech delays | Permalink

Comments

Way to get your Paint On, Little Picasso!

Posted by: Missie | September 18, 2008 at 04:57 PM

Well, three cheers for a good day. Don't worry about tomorrow or next week - just allow yourself to be damn happy about today. Yay.

Posted by: jive turkey | September 18, 2008 at 04:58 PM

Awesome. Fingerpainting just made me get all chill-bumpy and I may or may not have gotten a little teary over here...

Posted by: Kelly J | September 18, 2008 at 04:59 PM

Fingerpainting is a huge deal for kids with SID. Go Noah! Hey - my oldest (now 13) was a SID kid, and we did the weighted vest thing for a few years at school. It really helped him. Have you tried that with Noah?

Posted by: Cate | September 18, 2008 at 05:00 PM

I just want to let you know that I follow along here every day, and I have an admission to make.

I am in a situation where 2 (count them 2) 8+ year relationships turned into nightmare situations.

Hence, I have not had the opportunity to have any kids of my own (yet...I'm working on #3).

Anyway... the point is... I read every day, and follow along with Noah, and it makes my heart soar when you have success.

We care... All of us who can't or don't have our own love to hear every little detail.

Keep up the good work! And post some of the paintings.

Posted by: Chad | September 18, 2008 at 05:01 PM

Yay for Noah! Excellent news, and such a big step. I'm so excited for you guys. And I still think it is just totally awesome that his teacher has REAL experience dealing with SID and PDD-NOS.

So anyway, WOO HOO!!

Posted by: nonsoccermom | September 18, 2008 at 05:03 PM

Congratulations! As a friend of a mom with a 4 yo SID child, putting your hands into goopy stuff is quite an accomplishment! Confetti and balloons for all!

Posted by: Jamie AZ | September 18, 2008 at 05:04 PM

Noah is Awesome!

Posted by: Rebecca | September 18, 2008 at 05:04 PM

Yay! for Noah and YAY! for you! Do you know how fun fingerpainting is? OH, IT'S FUN!

Posted by: Burgh Baby | September 18, 2008 at 05:05 PM

Hurray for Noah and the fingerpainting! And in the same vein, to my big lump of 10 year old son who finally managed to tie shoelaces! Sort of! I'm thinking of commissioning a commemorative plaque

Posted by: Loth | September 18, 2008 at 05:07 PM

Yay for you and YAY for Noah! I totally relate, too... my twelve year old was diagnosed with *almost* aspbergers five years ago... like you, its tough because he's not QUITE all the way there... anyway, this year? HE JOINED THE FOOTBALL TEAM. And IS PLAYING. With OTHER KIDS. On a TEAM.

So fingerpainting? Yeah, I totally feel you.

Here's hoping tomorrow is AT LEAST as fabulous.

xo

b.

Posted by: just beth | September 18, 2008 at 05:07 PM

Congratulations, that really IS fantastic news. Glad you decided to share.

Posted by: Irma | September 18, 2008 at 05:08 PM

Go Noah! Every little story you tell always makes me smile.

Posted by: starrynite | September 18, 2008 at 05:08 PM

GO NOAH! Yaaaaaaay! :)

Posted by: Maxine Dangerous | September 18, 2008 at 05:08 PM

Yay, Noah! What a sweetheart. This added a little brightness to an otherwise drab day.

Posted by: sheilah | September 18, 2008 at 05:09 PM

Yay, Noah! My heart is full for you right now...this is fabulous!

Posted by: Lora | September 18, 2008 at 05:10 PM

Boo-yah for fingerpainting!

I about died when I was able to brag that my 7 year old went two days in a row with no consequences (bad behavior reports) at school. TWO WHOLE DAYS! Not so interesting to the general public, but for us, HUGE.

So celebrate away!

Posted by: all things BD | September 18, 2008 at 05:11 PM

Fingerpaints! That's wonderful news (and totally blog worthy)!

Posted by: Lisa | September 18, 2008 at 05:11 PM

Yay Noah!

An aside:
My little brother would come home from pre-school when he was 3 and 4 and tell us tales of "I went on the swing with my friend, I colored with my friend, and I sat next to my friend at circle time. I love my friend." And when asked what his friend's name was his response was always "I don't know." Sometimes boys just don't care about the details!

Posted by: Rachel | September 18, 2008 at 05:11 PM

=0) I am happy to hear. He is such a beautiful little boy. If I was still three years old I'd sooo have a crush on him!

Posted by: Ulla | September 18, 2008 at 05:13 PM

Noah had the Best! Week! Ever!

Just like Britney Spears last week! Except he's about seventy thousand times cuter. (And I'm assuming he's better about wearing underwear.

Posted by: Nothing But Bonfires | September 18, 2008 at 05:14 PM

That is awesome! And no, don't feel ridiculous, these are the days you need to help get you through those days when you want to rip your hair out. That being said, WOOT! *throws confetti* :D

Posted by: Sarah | September 18, 2008 at 05:15 PM

Sounds like the new teacher is gonna get more than an apple this christmas. She is fabulous. And...Go Noah!

Posted by: christina | September 18, 2008 at 05:15 PM

That's great news!

Posted by: Kristin | September 18, 2008 at 05:16 PM

Oh dear. I've been lurking for almost 5 years? Yes. Weird.

Posted by: Janna | September 18, 2008 at 05:17 PM

That is so Cool. My 14 year old son, has Aspergers. He has SID also. Yay! Yay! Yay! for your son. Have you read "The out of Sync Child" by Carol Stock Kranowitz. Great book, must have. Glad you have a teacher that gets it.

Posted by: Jackie | September 18, 2008 at 05:17 PM

This sounds like a great day for yr family. I am really happy for you!

Posted by: amy | September 18, 2008 at 05:17 PM

Isn't it amazing how just taking a few people out the equation and adding a few others to it and he acts totally differnt? I am alot like that too, overly loud people make me shut down and run away. I am so happy for you two!!

Posted by: susan | September 18, 2008 at 05:18 PM

YAY Noah! What a great day!

I'm celebrating with you, Amy! Whoohooooooo!

(Hey, I posted last Wednesday about my 11-almost-12-year-old coloring! By herself! For the first time! EVER! It was monumental ~ to me ~ and so very blog-worthy!)

Posted by: Kim | September 18, 2008 at 05:18 PM

If Noah ever needs a fingerpainting buddy, I am SO in.

Posted by: meghan | September 18, 2008 at 05:19 PM

That's one helluva fantastic teacher that she is able to not only understand what an achievement that was, but also be excited about it. Sounds like the 5 day program is really a good move for Noah. Yay, good teacher! Yay, happy mama! Yay, NOAH!

Posted by: heels | September 18, 2008 at 05:19 PM

GO NOAH! Keep making that Mama of yours cry (the good tears!)

Posted by: Daisy Duke | September 18, 2008 at 05:24 PM

i am incredibly, INCREDIBLY happy for you.

Posted by: rebecca | September 18, 2008 at 05:35 PM

Hooray for Noah! My son has severe SID and I totally understand where you are coming from. YAY! for fingerpainting!

Posted by: Anna Marie | September 18, 2008 at 05:37 PM

Right on, Noah! This calls for some CHIPOTLE! Heh. ;)

Posted by: Sara | September 18, 2008 at 05:39 PM

Small victories, big tears. What an awesome day -- for Noah, for you, and for those of us who follow your journey.

Just in case you haven't thought of it duh yeah right? Do you know how lucky you are to have that teacher???? Do you? (I think you do...)

Posted by: wordnerd | September 18, 2008 at 05:42 PM

I don't *always* comment, but I always cheer for Noah and I cheer for you and Jason for being the "we're gonna do whatever we can to help our son" parents that you are. It means so much and will make such a difference for Noah.

Posted by: Starbuck | September 18, 2008 at 05:45 PM

Yay Noah! Fan-freaking-tastic! Everybody involved in this story is awesome.

Posted by: Liz | September 18, 2008 at 05:47 PM

Way to go, Noah!!!!! Rooting for you up/over here in Washington state!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Posted by: lizinsumner | September 18, 2008 at 05:49 PM

Hooray!! That is totally post-worthy because we want to know how he (and thus you) are doing. Hey, ALL of parenting is a good day here, a shitty day there, so celebrate the good ones. And smart suggestions on Liz's part.

Posted by: Anne Glamore | September 18, 2008 at 06:01 PM

Go, Noah! Go, Noah! Go, go, go Noah!

And, Amy, that teacher sounds heaven sent. I'm so happy for you and your family, and I think I speak on behalf of all of Noah's internet aunts and uncles. (Granted, they all seem to be speaking for themselves quite well.)

Posted by: Dr. Maureen | September 18, 2008 at 06:04 PM

YAAAAY! Fingerpainting is very blog-worthy. My nephew did not get a time out in kindergarten today. I think that's fantastic, too. As is the fact that my bro ditched my phone call to go play tag with his boys. Good stuff!

Posted by: Emily | September 18, 2008 at 06:05 PM

That is incredible! Progress on so many fronts for your little man! Woohooo

Posted by: Kristin | September 18, 2008 at 06:06 PM

uh no offense amy we like your words and all but i think i speak for all the internets when i DEMAND to see the masterpiece!!

Posted by: lisa | September 18, 2008 at 06:07 PM

Yay for good days!! You keep me riveted with your words no matter what they're about. Thank you, as always, for sharing. And go Noah!

Posted by: Jessica | September 18, 2008 at 06:08 PM

So proud. Of both of you.

Posted by: Leah | September 18, 2008 at 06:08 PM

We DO care, you are quite right. And we do so appreciate all the updates on everyone's favorite boy with unfairly perfect eyelashes.

Posted by: ali | September 18, 2008 at 06:10 PM

Yeah, Noah! And "Yeah, Mommy!" while I'm at it. Every day is so different with these wonderful little people, and you definitely should be celebrating all the wonderful things about today.

Posted by: Jody | September 18, 2008 at 06:13 PM

YAAAAAAY NOAH!

(and please dont ever NOT post something b/c some of us are trolls. some of us are not! and adore noah! and adore the fact he's fingerpainting! we're there cheering right there with you-- just let us!!! :))

Posted by: aly | September 18, 2008 at 06:14 PM

As someone who has worked with lots of kids with SID, I know that fingerpainting is a very big, very exciting, celebration-worthy deal. Go Noah, with your bad squishy-stuff-touching self.

Posted by: Superfantastic | September 18, 2008 at 06:14 PM
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