A Bunch of Turkeys

Diagnosis: Idiot

(Apologies in advance for the screediness of this post. I slipped in my socks and fell flat on my ass while attempting to kick a foam soccer ball into a miniature goal in my living room this morning, so perhaps it's my wounded pride [and backside] lashing out at its inner child, or some such.)

(For something more fluffy, feel free to visit the Luvs Momspeak site for my entry about Ghetto Fabulous Bargain Baby-Proofing.)

I currently find myself irrationally angry at Denis Leary.

Okay, let me back up. Denis Leary was on The Daily Show last week, where he attempted to clarify this passage from his book, from a chapter called "Autism Schmautism:"

There is a huge boom in autism right now because inattentive mothers and competitive dads want an explanation for why their dumb-ass kids can't compete academically, so they throw money into the happy laps of shrinks…to get back diagnoses that help explain away the deficiencies of their junior morons.

I don't give a fuck what these crackerjack whack jobs tell you—yer kid is NOT autistic. He's just stupid. Or lazy. Or both.

HA HA! Oh, funny fucking shit, that.

So in case you missed the 284304822343489 blog entries about this, uh...yeah. KIND OF NOT THE BEST THING TO SAY. The excerpt appeared in the New York Post, parents went nuts, people got angry, the Autism Society of America essentially told Leary to go fuck himself, and as of this morning, "DENIS LEARY AUTISM" is still the very first suggestion that the Google search bar offers you when you type in his name.

But! Dudes! You totally took that out of context.

So as part of the Denis Leary Big Fucking Apology Media Blitz (aka the book ain't selling so well), he appeared on The Daily Show, where he essentially repeated a canned statement he already released. A canned statement that SURELY was thought through and would make everything better.



...they missed the sections I thought made my feelings about autism very clear: that I not only support the current rational approaches to the diagnoses and treatment of real autism but have witnessed it firsthand while watching very dear old friends raise a functioning autistic child.

(Oh my God, he did NOT just pull the "but some of my best friends are autistic!" thing. He did NOT.)

The point of the chapter is not that autism doesn't exist—it obviously does—and I have nothing but admiration and respect for parents dealing with the issue, including the ones I know.


The bulk of the chapter deals with grown men who are either self-diagnosing themselves with low-level offshoots of the disease or wishing they could as a way to explain their failed careers and troublesome progeny.

On The Daily Show, however, Denis left out that "grown men" bit, and instead went on and on about parents. (Here's a link to the episode -- Denis appears in the last segment.) Parents are seeking low-level special needs diagnoses for their kids as some kind of get-out-of-jail-free card for their children's bad behavior. Bad behavior that is a direct result of bad parenting.

Question. What "low-level special needs diagnoses" are you NOW expertly calling bullshit on, Denis Leary? PDD-NOS? Aspergers? Sensory Integration Disorders? Because now you're shitting really close to my own lawn, dude, and I've got a really long and pointy-ass rake.

(He then reiterated AGAIN that he totally knows a family dealing with "real" autism and knows how TERRIBLE AWFUL DEATH-SENTENCE-Y this "real" autism thing is. Like seriously, worst disease EVER! A lifetime of drudgery with a non-verbal kid who bites you and hand-flaps in a corner all day. That's not really my fight to pick with him, except that I AM SO SICK of people using autism -- and a misinformed and narrow view of the spectrum at that -- as a catch-all boogeyman to strike fear in the hearts of parents everywhere. Vaccinate? AUTISM. Get an extra ultrasound? AUTISM. Use a microwave while pregnant? AUTISM.  Meanwhile, I know plenty of parents who actually LIKE and ENJOY and LOVE their autistic children just fine! And their children love them back! Like they're real people or something! Imagine that!)

So, first. I get that Denis Leary is a comedian. I read the excerpt ages ago and while I thought it was dumb and misinformed and just highly ridiculously DUMB, I didn't get worked up over it. He's a comedian. He went for incendiary and controversial and frankly, he nailed it. South Park, Team America, Tropic Thunder -- three movies I laughed a lung out over; three movies that all had moments where I went, "duuude, I think they may have just gone far enough to kind of offend me." And then I went, "touche, good sirs. Tou-fucking-che."

But if you're going to backtrack on that incendiary and controversial statement when it doesn't pan out the way you wanted, when it appears that you indeed went waaaay too far, when it's hurting your sales figures and you start making the rounds of an I-Was-Taken-Out-Of-Context Media Tour, THAT'S when I'm going to take the words you say seriously.

And, second. This totally isn't about Denis Leary. This is about the last few days and weeks around here, as we attempt to navigate through Speech Delays v.2.0.

The school district -- and we live in a "good" and well-funded school district -- may provide Noah with some speech services. Services that we have already witnessed first-hand and realize that they simply won't be enough to get Noah where we think he needs to be, and where he's capable of being. There's a lowest-common-denominator aspect to the programs that hurt kids with the more mild (SOME MIGHT SAY "LOW LEVEL") delays and disabilities. Noah was always near the top of the Early Intervention scale of need. Put him in a classroom with neuro-atypical kids and other more serious disorders and he looks pretty good. He can hook himself onto the bottom rung of the ladder of "normal," and that's about as high as the free services are obligated to lift him. Which is exactly what already happened and what led to EI ending his services.

But. Put him in a classroom with neuro-typical kids and kids with zero speech or sensory issues and suddenly it doesn't look so great. He loves school, but that doesn't mean it's a perfect fit. His first progress report (we got it yesterday) was heartbreakingly abysmal. He tries hard to communicate with his teachers and peers, but no one can understand him. He still melts down over every transition. He cannot tolerate operating in the group for more than a few minutes. He needs constant one-on-one attention that the teachers cannot give. He is not demonstrating skills that I know he knows -- I looked at row after row of capital Is (for "Introduced," basically the lowest mark he can get) with a huge lump in my throat. He knows how to do that! And that! He's smart, I swear. I really swear he's a smart, loving, wonderful kid.

But he's struggling. In preschool.

And you know what, Denis Leary? If I were a bad or lazy parent, I wouldn't fucking give a shit. I wouldn't spend hours researching doctors and specialists in search of answers or therapy or a way to help my child NOT struggle in school and social situations. I would sit back and shrug my shoulders and tell myself that it will all work itself out by kindergarten. But I'd like to get my son a bigger boost up that ladder, Denis Leary, because I think he's capable of it and I believe in him and I believe it's my fucking job as his mother to get him that boost.

And you know what else, Denis Leary? You know why parents want those low-level diagnoses? It's not to ease our guilt or abdicate our responsibility for our child's "bad" behavior. It's because that's the fucking way the fucking system works, jackass. Call up your health insurance (if you've got it! ha ha!) and find out what kind of coverage they offer for, say, speech therapy.

Now find out what kind of conditions they put on it, and find out what conditions and diagnoses they exclude. Dyslexia? Articulation problems? Abnormal speech development? "Speech problems that are educational in nature?"

Now once you've asked the nice insurance rep what the fuck that even means, and well, what kind of diagnosis DOES get you the speech therapy coverage, and recieved absolutely no answer or guidance, you may realize that hell, the next phone call better be to a developmental pediatrician (appointment wait time: six months!) so hell, you can get your kid fully evaluated beyond the vague oral-motor sensory problems and get a damn solid diagnosis, and hell hot damn in a blanket, you might actually sort-of maybe secretly hope that diagnosis is enough for your incredibly expensive insurance to pay for a few measly sessions of speech therapy. (And let's not even get into occupational therapy! Ho ho!)

Meanwhile, try to look at your child -- your smart, loving, wonderful but struggling child -- and not be whalloped with fear from both sides. Fear that your insurance will reject your claims...and fear that if the insurance DOESN't reject your claims, it will be because the diagnosis your child receives will indeed be something that scares you. Something that you don't quite feel capable of handling, or something that means other people -- other misinformed, ignorant people -- will forever look at your child differently, or hold him to lower expectations, or cast pitying glances at you and wonder what you did wrong, whether you vaccinated or had ultrasounds or used a microwave while you were pregant. The boogeyman. The new scarlet letter A.

You have any best friends dealing with that, Denis Leary? Because if you do, I'm wondering why they haven't gently pulled you aside and told you -- with love! -- to please fucking cram a sock in it already.



well put. so very well put.

Jen Am

As someone who works in insurance, here's some advice on what you need to do. Ask for a copy of your plan document, so you can research and read for yourself exactly what your plan pays for covered services and what that coverage is. They have to provide this to you, if requested.

Once you get that, if you need help interpreting, just email me; I'm more than willing to help.

You can pull out the paragraphs that apply and then google the applicable diagnosis codes. That way, when you go into the appointment, you will know exactly what is covered based on what they diagnose and if they can use one code over the other and it makes a significant difference is your coverage, that is something your provider needs to know.
Once diagnosed, there's no going back on those codes without significant hassle.

Also, depending on your coverage, there may not be that much difference out of pocket on in-network/out-of-network coverage, especially if you are going to max out anyway. If so, then it might make sense to see an out-of-network provider if you can get in faster.

Also, every provider's billing office will negotiate with you if you have the guts to pull it off. Especially if you know your coverage and do your research.

Jen L.

Brava, Amy!

@dennis leary's best friend: REALLY? You must be new here.


I'm not going to comment on Dennis Leary, but in terms of Noah:

I know you live in the DC area. Have you thought about the Lab School? I have several friends who attended the Lab School for a variety of reasons -- learning disabilities, mild forms of autism, other developmental disabilities -- and all of them seemed to get a really positive experience for it (not to mention a great education). I'm not sure of its financial requirements, nor am I familiar with your financial situation (I am, after all, only on the Intarwebs), but it seems like a school that could be a great boon for your son.


I am a parent of an (oh noes!) autistic child and I do, in fact, love him and like him, so does his father. :)

Have you thought about (and I'm sorry if you have and I haven't read it or it's in the comments elsewhere) a Montessori preschool? I personally did not have success there because my three year old NUT needs too much security to go to a 'normal' preschool - he's a runner. BUT I have heard great things about Montessori in general for molding the school to the child, not the child to the school. Maybe it would be a good fit? And as far as the ST goes - all you have to do is find one great therapist and it will make all the difference in the world. Hang in there sister it will all work out, Denis Leary be damned!

Katherine Gualtieri

You're post really hit home with me. My son who is 6 months older than Noah has motor planning/sensory issues and a severe speech delay. We're fortunate I guess that he still qualifies for services through the school district but the fact that he needs them at all sucks. My son James is in so many ways a mystery to me. I just want to be able to talk to him and have him reply in sentences and tell me about what's going on inside his head. It was such a punch in the gut to spend time recently with a newly 2 year old little boy who was speaking better than my almost 4 year old. I know we'll get through this but it just SUCKS!!


I teared up while reading your post and the comments. It makes me wonder how Noah will feel ten, twenty years from now when he reads back on your blog and sees just how hard and how long his mommy was going to fight for him.

been there

DL's best friend - wow, had to be a troll here somewhere... First off, if you read this blog at all, you would know that Amy's already DOING those things. More importantly, thou, what a way to totally disregard the training & education of EI folks! Do you honestly think all they do is read out loud to kids??? There's reason these services cost money - sure, most of it gets eaten up by the insurance cos, etc, but most EI specialists have masters & then some... all that training & education costs moola as well. Get a clue, or just keep quiet.


Very eloquently put.

Keep fighting the good fight.

I hope I get to meet you in person someday just so I can tell you in person that you are an awesome advocate. Noah (and Ezra!) are incredibly blessed.


We eventually gave up and started paying for private speech therapy. Private speech paths (ie not associated with a hospital or big organization) have much lower overhead and are affordable. Ok, not affordable, but less than $200/hr.

(One of the reasons why parents of autistic kids tend to not have as much money, all of it is spend on freakin therapy).


More assvice:

also, if you find a good professional to work with (ie, speech path) they can help you come up with solutions to help with school.
I.e. picture sequencing cards to help with transitions at school.

an example is little cartoon picture cards that are velcro'd to larger piece of cardstock. Each picture represents an activity (snack time, free play, table time, circle time). The cards are arranged sequentially and your child picks off the card at the start of each activity. It can help lots of kids with transitions, to see on the card what is next, and then they can anticipate it. After time he'll be able to do it himself, but at first he'll need adult help (to know what to do with the cards).



As the mother of one of those "highly functional" spectrum kids who still struggles with communication and social behaviors, the notion that my son is merely poorly disciplined or that I'm somehow lackadaisical in my parenting CHAPS MY ASS.



First: you rule. Just that.

Second: What you say so eloquently (and profanely, which I enjoy personally!) is that diagnosis matters. It matters because it determines not how we help our "broken" kid, but because it helps determine how we help our kid who may not be wired just like other kids. From some experience here (low rung diagnosis, people who can't believe the diagnosis because said child isn't "that bad"), you are on the exactly right track for your kid. Yeah, the insurance bullshit. Yeah, the specialists. All that crap. It's the right track because it's going to equip you to understand the wonderful person that Noah is and will be. I am a firm (and becoming firmer) believer that diagnosis is not about what's wrong, it's about what's different. And the fact that you want to understand the difference, that you love your son more than life -- sweetie, you'll get there with him (wherever the hell "there" is). I've also come to the conclusion that neuro-typical people probably miss a whole lot than their "atypical" peers.

As a parent, all we can do is help our kids with their struggles and encourage their strengths. And *every* kid in the world has both. I will just say that on the other side of diagnosis/insurance bullshit/fear that clutches at your gut in the middle of the night -- I *get* my kid now. I can help her now. And man, she's like the greatest kid ever. I knew that before, but now I know how to help her communicate that to the world. Does any of this make any sense? Feel free to e-mail, if you want. I mean, god you're amalah, and 675 people comment on every post, so I feel silly offering that. But if you ever need an ear or anything, just ask.

Lea White

Well said!

And to Dennis Leary's best friend who commented above, parents are not experts and sometimes just talking or reading to them is not enough. Sometimes there might acutally be something that requires more specialist treatment.


I think Denis Leary definitely crossed the line and he knows it.

On the other hand, it's my understanding that there's an ever-growing distaste out there for ineffectual parents of spoiled children. And that may or may not be valid. I'm not a parent, so I don't pontificate on what is the right or wrong way to raise a child. What's sad is that someone like Denis Leary, who at least is honest about branding himself as a shameless cynical bastard, feels the need to express this opinion by scapegoating parents of children on the autism spectrum. It's misdirected and it goes too far.

And really I think there's a parallel to be drawn here between the Denis Leary situation and the Mommy Wars, where there's a line that's been drawn in the sand regarding breastfeeding, for example, and if you're not on the right side of that line you are a lazy, horrible mother and your child won't get into MENSA. So when we're not paid cynics dumping on autistic kids and their parents, we're moms talking down to other moms just to be smug and indignant. It's a pretty intolerant society in general these days, I guess.

On a different note, my brother is pretty severely autistic, and I still think sometimes about the what-ifs of an earlier intervention/diagnosis. Would he be able to have conversations with me today if things had gone differently? Back in 1990 my parents had to fight to get a diagnosis that was barely legitimately recognized. Then they fought school districts tooth and nail so that he could get services and an education. All of this shit was hard before there was anything like a spectrum and it sucks to know that even today kids like Noah who fall into a "gray" area can't get services easily either. Luckily he has a great advocate in you. Don't ever stop fighting to help Noah be the best he can be, no matter what the diagnosis. You know what's best for him and no one should convince you otherwise. Thank you for speaking out on this. Please keep sharing.


Well fucking said, indeed.


Amy- my previous post has been deleted, perhaps you disagreed? but I also wanted to suggest that you find out where he will be going to school for Kindergarten. As far as I know, they are required to test him and provide services through the school, and then he will be able to continue with the same people once he acutally starts kindergarten. It's paid for by tax payer money. If you are already paying for it, you should get use out of it! Or they will at least be able to tell you where you can go for help.


I wish I could print this out and give a copy to the parent of every special needs child I work with. I'm sure they have had each one of these thoughts and one point or another. I actually had a mom call last week to ask if we knew what Sensory Integration Disorder was, because most therapy centers she called said they had never even heard of it! There is not enough help out there for these kids and absolutely not enough funding.

Just Saying

"Because now you're shitting really close to my own lawn, dude, and I've got a really long and pointy-ass rake."

That right there completely undermined your post. First he is just a comedian who earns a few laughs, with, admittedly, some offensive stuff, as long as he is not touching any issue close to you. Then he is a doucebag because he actually talks about problems you deal with and minimizes them. And then you make exclamation points about him pulling the " I have friends with autism " card, yet you pull the same card with " I have friends with autistic children who love their children", then you get all uppity about someone suggesting you read to your child, yet if you look back at many of your posts, most recently the one with Noah sick with a cold right before Thanksgiving, you frequently talk about how many hours of DVDs you watched, how much you are all addicted to Blues Clues etc.

Yes, you are a mother who is doing your best with your child, yes Dennis L. is a complete asshole and yes Noah's problems won't go away without some professional help and yes we all have immense sympathy for you, but dude, no need for you and your blind followers to get all pissy when people state their observations about the life your portray online or point to inconsistencies in your rant.

Sarah L.

I'm a long time lurker. I deal with alternative health and getting to the root cause of imbalance in the body. The program I deal with helps balance the body and support the body's health conditions. Feel free to email me since I believe this program could help Noah.

Also, is it possible that Noah is regressing some since the birth of the baby?
p.s. phbtbtbt to Dennis Leary.

Sarah L.

Sorry for the assvice if you aren't in the mood...


I'm not saying, but I'm just saying: read Jess. You may not be the same diagnoses, but I will bet ya she's been through all the same thoughts:


Girl. Hit the fucking nail on the head.

If more parents did as you did - EARLY INTERVENTION - teachers wouldn't constantly be banging their heads against the wall with these children because the system is designed to EXCLUDE, not include.

Umm. Don't get me started on where ESE money actually goes in the schools.

If more people would shut their damn traps about things they know nothing about, we wouldn't having flaming assholes running around saying autism is the new ADD.

Just because a child is atypical-neuro doesn't make their parents BAD. Damn. I hate stupid people.


Wow. You go, girl.


So much in my head, but I can only nod in agreement with you and say "hells yeah".

Not only do I have to deal with Cordy having that low-level special needs diagnosis that Leary makes fun of, but now Mira has been diagnosed with a speech delay. And I know how you feel - there's nothing funny about going from agency to agency to beg for therapy because your insurance is useless.


This was an astoundingly kickass post, and I don't know jack about the topic.

You know, most people really don't judge other parents. The ones who do are just really fucking loud and obnoxious.

Maria A.

Here Here!

You rock. Go mama.

And I also am wholeheartedly a believer that the earlier the services, the better - having been there myself with my two oldest boys.


As the mom of a 4 year old with severe articulation disorde and newly diagnosed Sensory Integration Disorder (in 3 areas- fuck), I applaud you. I beat myself up enough over the possiblity that the meds I HAD to take in order to keep my child and me alive during my hyperemesis pregnancy caused this. Then, when I am not beating myself up over that fact, I cry myself to sleep because my loving and wonderful son (who is disciplined and not allowed to run wild thank you very much) gets so overwhelmed in class because no one understands him and is so over-stimulated that he freaks out and HAS NO FRIENDS. Then, when that cry is over, I feel all panicky over how we will pay for the OT and Speech Therapy if our insurance decides to no longer cover these problems.

I don't live through my kid and I don't try to find a diagnosis in order to excuse any failings. I try to find diagnosis for my son because I want him to succeed in this world, in whatever way that works for him. Mainly, I want his hilarious stories and sweet words to be understood by people other than family. I want him to see school as a happy place and not a place filled with people who can't understand him and scare him. I want my son to have a good life and if Dennis Leary and the rest of that ilk can't understand them, they can go to hell.

Denis Leary's best friend

If your kid is so perfect as everyone here says, then why do you need to seek help for him? Do you really think that some person with a master's degree is really going to magically "fix" your kid? I realize that you and all your ass-kissers here are trying to do what is best for your kids, but sometimes it isn't always clinical. A lot of people (except you of course because you're a perfect parent) need a diagnosis for their kids so they can use it as an excuse for lack of true parenting, and so they can take that label everywhere their kid goes and use it in case their kid doesn't do well. I'm sure there were plenty of kids 30 years ago who had similar issues to those today and parents just dealt with them and eventually their kids turned out fine. If you want to waste your time and money trying to find your kid a "label", then that's your prerogative, but all I'm trying to say is that the time you're wasting doing all of that could be better spent with your kid.

Katie Kat

I do completely agree with what you are saying, and understand your anger as the parent of a child who truly DOES have some very real issues. And your description of wanting him to be as "low level" as possible while simultaneously needing him to be able to receive insurance benefits and being scared shitless of what that possibility might mean is heart breaking. It's sad to think some of these things Noah is now experiencing could label him for life, even though he will surely be as "normal" as anyone else in the long run.

I don't want to defend Denis Leary, because I think his comments were completely over the line and crude, but, I do think he had a point, and that point was lost in him being his typical asshole self. When you said "as a catch-all boogeyman to strike fear in the hearts of parents everywhere. Vaccinate? AUTISM. Get an extra ultrasound? AUTISM. Use a microwave while pregnant? AUTISM," I think you hit upon what he was trying to say. There are a lot of parents out there who have kids who are just run-of-the-mill obnoxious kids and some of THOSE parents are trying to take the easy way out by getting a diagnosis of ADD or Autism, etc. so that they can medicate their kids instead of just taking the time to be a better parent. I'm not pointing fingers, this is just what I think might be happening in some cases, and Denis Leary unfortunately picked a completely unacceptable way to state that.

None of that detracts from how incredibly STUPID it was of him to even SAY this, let alone publish it in a book. Hopefully he will have learned a lesson, or, at the very least, will have been punched in the gut financially by his poor judgment. That's probably all that matters to him anyway!

(Don't hate me now! I'm agreeing with you


You probably won't read this far down the line BUT....

This is why we chose to homeschool. Not everyone needs a label. Not everyone should feel they have to be a part of "normalcy". WE ARE ALL WEIRD. Honestly, homeschooling has been the best thing we ever did. Which is funny because I was so against it for years.

Think about it.


What can I say, I love you Amalah. You know just how to rant the rant I have in my head.


Let me expand on my previous entry.

Public school does very little in the way of OT/speech. The bare minimum. You are better off getting privatized treatment.

My son is 9. He has learned far more and grown more socially this first year of homeschooling than he ever did in all the years of public school. He no longer has migranes every other day. He is no longer frusterated to tears with schoolwork. He no longer feels like a weird kid. He knows he is a cool kid, and so do his new friends.

I thought homeschool was weird for years, but for my quirky kids...it totally rocks.


Um... is "Denis Leary's best friend" at 12:26 yesterday kidding me? Do you even read this blog? Ever? Because... wow, I think not.

Amen, Amalah.


IS Denis Leary still around? I thought he died, of cancer or something? Oh well.

Mrs C

I sort of love you more than evah now.

And "looky daddy" posing as Denis L. - you made me laugh, dude. Guffaw.


You just reinforced (AGAIN!!) waht a great, fantabulous mother you are, and how lucky Noah is to have you in his corner.

Dennis Leary reinforced why actors should stick to acting, and not offering of their ignorant, stupid ideas.

Sass Pizzazz

I don't even have any kids, but this post was filled with such kickassitude that it made me want to jump up and yell AMEN!

I also wanted to point out (as a psychology major and future social worker) that Mr. Leary's comments are also offensive to the professionals that make the diagnoses and work with the kids. In spite of the fact that it takes a lot of education to become a psychologist/psychiatrist/teacher/etc, he's implying that these people are just making things up and pulling diagnoses out of their asses to please parents.

This reminds me of Tom Cruise's psychotic rantings against any and all psychiatric meds. Are these men aware that there is a lot of education, brilliance, and brainpower that contributes to the development of these diagnoses, drugs, and therapies?

On the other hand, I agree that moderation is the key, in all things. Including being an opinionated asshole.


Katie Kat voiced my thoughts before I could. Well-said. The same statements could be made about the over-diagnosis of ADD.


it's a broken system. i know, i've been in the midst of trying to get children services that NEED it. and they are given 20 sessions for the year. hell if that will make a difference. so i moved over to the school system. shit. it's not much better.
good job, mama bear.
if i can ever help you with some of the speech stuff, let me know. i'm full of free ideas.


Thank you for posting this. As a mom of 4, 2 with delays, I feel every word you just typed.


Fucking A right!


Dennis Leary is fucking moron! What a can of worms he opened.


Wow Amy, way to ride around on your high horse!

Dennis Leary wasn't talking to you,

but if you WEREN'T one of those parents, why did you just write a whole entry about how he was an asshole for saying those things? Have you examined why you're getting so mad?


Love it! You said perfectly what every parent who has a child with sensory issues is thinking. It is so frustrating to try to get them help and be told that they do have issues but they are not severe enough for anyone to help you unless you can pay out of pocket more than what most of us can do.


You're being the best mom you can be. And you're right: the title "mom" itself carries all the guilt in the world because everything you do will be scrutinized and to have some fucknut who doesn't know what the hell he's talking about call us "lazy and stupid"? How dare he? Being "mom" is never enough for some people, it would seem.
I cry for you and what you're going through. You are so strong and Noah is so lucky to have you fighting for him.
Fuck the Dennis Learys of the world. Fuck 'em right in the ear.


I can not believe that some one could say something so hurtful.

As a professional who works with kids with Autism spectrum disorders, I am totally outraged. They're not "dumb-ass kids". They are children with a different set of challenges. They are warm, caring, loving and funny. Their parents are the complete opposite of "inattentive mothers". I've never seen parents work so hard to help their children. And these parents aren't bringing their children to just one professional, oh no. They can spend the entire day taking their child from place to place to get them the help that they need. These parents care so much.

Shame on Denis Leary for belittling these children and their brave, caring parents!

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