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All That Your Heart Can Take

On Friday, we got the results of my father's heart catheterization, which mostly confirmed what we already knew: there's a very bad blockage in there, a blockage has likely been there for awhile and likely caused his fall last summer and is definitely causing all of his current bouts of dizziness and breathlessness that have essentially kept him housebound for months now. Angioplasty or a stent or medication will not help. Bypass surgery is absolutely not an option because of his age and health and just...no. Quality of life, enjoy what you have, and all that.

On Saturday, my mom called 911 after the third nitroglycerin failed to halt my dad's symptoms and he was admitted to the hospital.

Today, they're meeting with the heart surgeon about the bypass surgery. My dad is resisting, and I can't blame him for that. For two years, they've told us the surgery could kill him. In two days, we've simply run out of other options.

I'm loading up babies and pets and an indefinite number of days' worth of underwear. I never really know what I actually can DO when I rush up to visit at the first sign of a crisis, but it's...well, rushing up to visit is just what I always do. So I do that. I'm doing that. Okay.

Comments

Liana

Sorry and worried on your behalf.
My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family, especially your Dad, of course.
:::HUGS:::

little Dutch girl

I will be thinking of you and your family, all the best...

Shannon

You're all in my prayers. God bless.

Sprite's Keeper

Praying for your parents! Drive safely!

Pocklock

Thinking of and praying for you and your family.

Elizabeth

Having been there myself with my Dad, I'll keep your family in my thoughts.

andi hamstra

please be careful and remember that everything happens for a reason~ not one that is immediately apparent, but a reason nonetheless...

Wacky Mommy

sending prayers and hugs.

sarah

I'll be thinking of you and your family. Big hugs to you.

Bonnie

Sorry to hear about the latest development and I'll be thinking of you and your family.

marjorie

I'll be sending prayers and good thoughts for you and your family.

Kristin

Praying hard for your family Amy!

sheilah

I am not a praying person but I will hope for the best for your dad.

Thinking good thoughts...

susan

thinking of you, best wishes.

Mary Jo

I will be thinking of you all. I will pray.

Kristen

My thoughts are with you and your family.

Corinne

Oh Amy, I'm so sorry. It's a horrible situation to be in and I wish you never had to go through this. I'll be thinking and praying for your family

Judy

Lots of prayers your way, Amy. Lots and lots.

Anna

I am so sorry. I am thinking of you and your family, and that everything goes well.

Kimberly

Thinking of you. hugs

MariaV

Oh, Amy! My heart is with you. (((((HUGS))))))

Dr. Maureen

Oh, Amy, I'm so sorry. You and your family will be in my prayers.

Charlene

Just being there will mean so much to him. I moved back to my hometown after eight years away just before my dad was diagnosed with terminal brain cancer. That last year wasn't a lot of fun in a lot of ways, but I was so grateful to be able to be nearby and spend as much time as possible with him. Best wishes to you and your family.

Must be Motherhood

All the love of the internet is with you! xxxx

PaintingChef

Thinking of you.

Beeeee

As someone who has done the "rush home for a crisis" before, I will say that you will never regret that decision. Every moment you spend with your parents is precious and the knowledge that you care enough to be there when they're hurting is invaluable to them. I am keeping your family in my prayers - I hope everything works out the way it is meant to.

Erin

I'm so sorry for what your family is going through. I'll be holding a good thought for you guys.

kim at allconsuming

sometimes being there somehow makes it all a little easier. Holding you and yours in my thoughts.

Maria

Oh Amy, my thoughts & prayers are with you and your family. I hope that everything goes well.

Mrs. Higrens

Oh Amy. What a rough thing for your family to face. Like everyone else, my thoughts will be with you all.

Katie Kat

Oh Amy, I'm sorry... parents getting older is just not fun. All I can say is we are all sending out good karma to your dad (and all your family) and big HUGS to you. Hang in there honey...

drwendy

Rushing in and showing up are always the right thing to do--you're presence is a healing gift.

jive turkey

Thinking of you & your family.

Kristine

Drive safely. Good thoughts and prayers for your father, both for surgery and recovery.

bessie.viola

Oh Amy. I am so sorry to hear this - hugs to your entire family. Am sending lots of prayers too. Be well.

Catherine S

Get there safely and give your Dad a huge hug.

SassyPants

My heart and my prayers go with you. Don't worry about us. We'll keep the fires going while you are away and have a bottle or 5 of wine for when you return.

Amy

Oh, I'm so sorry to hear this. I'm mentally sending you a casserole and a pie. (Because that's what I do.)

Karen

Amy, I'm so sorry. You'll be in my thoughts.

John

Thoughts and prayers headed your way.

Meg

I'm so, so sorry. My thoughts are with you and your family.

Julie

So Sorry. My 79 year old father has a similar history. We looked into EECP which is a non invasive series of procedures to increase circulation/decrease blockages. It has helped TREMENDOUSLY! Look into it.

Erin

Thoughts and prayers are with you and your family!

Kelly

I'm so sorry.... Your family is in my thoughts.

Annie

*hugs* You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. Take care.

FishyGirl

Prayers and positive thoughts for you and your Dad, Amy.

Kim

You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers. Wishing you well, drive safely!

jenn

Thinking of you and your family.

Be safe.

Lea

How awful. I hope everything turns out well and my thoughts are with you and your family.

Blayne Borden

Just so ya know - three years ago my grandfather has quadruple bypass at age 81. It was dicey for a while but he is the better for it now.

Be safe and you and your family are in my thoughts!

smartypantz

You’re in my thoughts and prayers.

Parsing Nonsense

I'm so sorry, Amalah, that really sucks. My Dad is currently battling lymphoma so I unfortunately know the feeling. I'm sending prayers and good wishes your way!

Solmaz

You are in my thoughts.
Best wishes.

Nothing But Bonfires

Oh, Amy, I'm thinking of you. Lots and lots of good vibes sent your way to all of you.

heather

Just remember that hand on your shoulder. It's still there, even if you can't feel it. He will come through this. Think positively, drive safely, and just love your family the best way you know how, even if it feels like you don't know what you're doing while in crisis-mode.

God bless you and your family - you're all in my prayers.

hydrogeek

Drive safely, I'll pray for you and yours.

Wendy

Most likely, Ezra and Noah can do much more than YOU can. Children are often the best medicine in times like this, and help keep spirits up when most everything else looks pretty gloomy. And, in coming through a major surgery like that successfully, the best thing to do is go into it with a positive attitude. Ez and Noah can help with that like no one else, I would suspect.

lynn

My dad was just diagnosed with cancer and he has had a bypass surgery years ago, surgery or chemo may not be an option for him either...just saying, I know where you are emotionally, it is not nice. I am waiting to hear about when I should pack up and go, probably today, prayers, good thoughts-drive safe...

vicky

I'm glad you are able to be there. Hope everything works out for the best and very positive thoughts going out for you all.

Amy M.

So sorry, Amy. You & your fam are in my prayers.

My dad had a brain aneurysm in '03 & I flew out to be with him & my Mom. I couldn't do anything, either, but was so happy I went. I got to be with him in his last moments on Earth & help my Mom through 1 of the roughest months of her life.

Broad

Be safe, and wishing everything works out for your family the way it's supposed to.

Tam.

Thinking good thoughts for you and your family and keeping you all in my prayers.

bec

Prayers for your dad and your family.

JP

That is not good news, and I am sorry for you and your family. I hope you made it safely.

Kim

Praying for good decisions and even better outcomes.

Lisa

Oh Amy... I hope your dad is ok. My thoughts are with you and your family.

Suzanne

I'll be thinking good thoughts for you.

Alicia Millis

oh sweetie, I am so sorry. I am sending loads of prayers your family's way.

Kathryn

My mother-in-law was in a similar position 8 years ago, complicated by some hormonal issues related to her thyroid and by a nasty virus that she caught because her system was so weakened. She could barely walk from one room to another. They operated in March of 2001, and she's going strong now: working, traveling, chasing after her grandkids, exercising, etc.

Remember that anything is possible, no matter how bad things seem. I hope all is well with you and your family.

linda

Amy, praying for your dad and for you.

Wallydraigle

Oh man. I'm so sorry. I hope all turns out well. Trust me; your being there will mean so much to your mom.

Tracey B.

Take care and you have my thoughts...

staciesmadness

found you through text imps

sorry to hear about your dad, I wish you and your family the best.

Britt

The best thing you can do is be there. Sending the best thoughts your way . . .

jess

Thinking of you and your family.

Emily

Delurking to say that I'm sorry your family has to go through this - just know that lots of people on the internet are hoping for the best!

Michele

You are doing the right thing and are blessed to be able to do it. If your parents are anything like mine, being there for your Dad will help give your mom some support and peace, and being there for your mom will give your dad comfort and peace.Atleast that is how it worked on my family-parents are funny that way! Sending you lots of prayers for strength, grace and peace.

Amy

Lots of prayers for Papa Corbin.

Tricina

That sucks. I'm sorry.

Horrible Warning

I can't imagine all that must be flying through your head. I'm thinking about you and your family, fingers crossed.

Nina

Hugs! I hope everything turns out okay for your dad.

Chibi Jeebs

Sending tons of positive thoughts your way. *hugs*

Danielle

My thoughts are with you and your family. Hang in there.

Monique

We love you and are we are with you.

Grammar Snob

My husband had open heart surgery a year and a half ago...at age 37. I'm an expert in dealing with all things heart and surgery and hospitals and worry related. Please email me if you'd like. I'll email you my phone number if you'd like to talk. In this situation...it really does help to know someone who knows how much it sucks.

Melissa

Praying for your father, you, and your whole family.

Kris

I'm so sorry. I'm not really a religious person, but may God keep a watchful eye and a protective hand over your Dad.

Ivie

You and your family are in our prayers.

Haley

Delurking to say that my thoughts and prayers are with your entire family. May the doctors find the best possible treatment for your dad.

Asha Dornfest

Wishing you, your dad, and your family well.

Maria

Sending good thoughts your way.

MiniHipster.com

Family is THE most important thing in the world. It really is enough just to be there with them. Drive safely.

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Geege

Good luck Amy. Thinking of you and your family :)

Shelley

Prayers for your whole family.

sarah

My thoughts and prayers are with you, your dad, and your mom. Good Luck!

Stacy

Ohhhhh.

My thoughts and prayers are with you and yours. Take care.

Elaine

Oh Amy, I'm so sorry to hear about all this. I hope your dad can stay strong and healthy through the surgery, if that is what your family and the doctors decide. Travel safely, and I'm thinking of y'all.

r+k+mama

It's scary and it sucks. All you can do is be there for each other. We're thinking of you...

Devon

Hoping for the best for you and your family Amy. I am thinking of you.

Ashley Fitting

Hang in there. We are all thinking of you and your family. You definitely need to be up there... its what you do for family, even if you're not doing anything at all. Being close is enough.

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