Ephemera Friday
An Ezra Interlude

Yes He Can

The Out-of-Sync Child describes a child with dyspraxia as the "I Can't Do That" child. They sit on a bike but have to stare at their feet to get them to pedal...stare at their hands to make sure they are steering...and when they raise their head to see where they are going...the pedaling and steering stop, and the bike doesn't go anywhere. They climb stairs slower, they jump later, and the worst part is, they know it. Their friends can draw things that actually look like things with crayons, their peers skip happily around the playground, the toddler next door races around on his tricycle, and they know it. They remember the frustration, the falls, the failure.

So they look at the bike and say, "I can't do that."

And the parent of a child with dyspraxia shrugs, and says okay. He can't do that. Or he won't do that. Is that the same thing? Are we expecting too much or too little?

We ask the teachers and the therapists and get different answers. He can't process who/what/when/where/how questions. He can't pedal a tricycle. Eh, that's pretty common. I wouldn't worry about it. Here, practice some writing some letters with him this weekend.

Conversely: Letters?! Handwriting?! He's not ready for that. We need to focus on the gross motor skills first, the pragmatic speech, his receptive language processing.


Last week he met a little boy his age at the park. The little boy had a scooter. He chased Noah around and around on the scooter. He didn't speak English, so they didn't talk. They just chased and chased and chased and laughed and on the way home Noah announced that he wanted a scooter.

I said something non-committal about his birthday -- yeah, I would just LOVE to go out an spend money on another damn toy that he won't actually get on or go near in real life, like the big wheel and the tricycle  -- but Jason, ever the optimist and big giant SUCKER when it comes to that boy, went out and bought him a scooter.

And he loved it. He was cautious at first, and kept his foot on the ground more often than not. He would only go in a straight line, and then jump off in a panic right before it collided with the sofa. He was adamant that he only wanted to ride it inside, not outside.

But a neighbor's little boy rode past our house one morning. He had the same little scooter. Noah saw him out the window and shrieked in delight and he needed his scooter he needed his SCOOTER. We all dashed outside and holy crap, look at him riding his scooter. He can do it.

"He needs a helmet," Jason fretted, and I groaned again. Art-project visors are one thing, but a helmet? He'll never wear one.

He accidentally crashed into the back of our neighbor's legs and fell down. He was fine. And he got back on the scooter.


We refinanced our mortgage this weekend. A better interest rate, lower payment, all around a good thing. We'd originally talked about the possibility of getting some cash back to renovate the kitchen, but now it's going towards the first installment of Noah's tuition. We couldn't find anyone to watch the boys during the closing, so I'd brought some toys and puzzles and hoped it would go quickly before they started getting too antsy.

Sure enough, Noah finished the little puzzle I'd brought in no time, and was not interested in anything else. The closing agent offered him a legal pad and a pen and he made some halfhearted scribbles. In desperation, I drew a capital L...the letter his teacher had told us to practice. Noah immediately shifted his grip of the pen and copied my lines.

"Dowwwwn, and across," he said. "And that's how you make an L!"

He then covered the paper with L's of various sizes, dowwwwwn and across.

When the closing was over, the guy collected his pad and pen. I asked if I could keep Noah's doodling page. I pressed it between the stacks of loan documents because I didn't want it to get crumpled.


Later, a stranger fitted him for a brand-new helmet and he did not protest. He just wanted to get back on his scooter. Until, that is, he spotted someone else's brand-new bike by the cash register. A big-kid two-wheeler, with training wheels attached. He climbed on it and slowly, surely, steadily...began to pedal towards the door. Jason and I just stood there stupidly, too shocked to actually do anything. A salesman intervened before we managed to snap to attention.

"I can ride a bike!" Noah shouted. I have to admit, he sounded a little surprised.


He spent the rest of the weekend on that scooter. Down hills, around corners, laughing as other little boys chased after him. He puts his leg out acrobatically and glides, trying out figure eights and perfect circles and wanting to go a little further from home each time, finally having fun like any other kid, because he is, and he can.






How awesome, awesome, awesome!

Shannon the SLP

Best post evar! Tears, chills, and smiles. Hooray for you and Noah!


This made me tear up a little. Even Flight of the Conchords couldn't stop it.


as a mom to a dyspraxia/apraxia boy who is ten and thriving this makes me so happy for you, you and noah!





Not only are you cheering for this kid, Amy, but the entire Internets. The Ls got me. So glad I didn't attempt to read this one at work.


My son has a scooter and apart from the trampoline it's the best thing I've ever bought him. They're great. The bike is rusting away though.


There is nothing as amazing as a kid achieving. Nothing.


Brilliant! You've done a great job.


Oh holy hell you've got me bawling. It's a good thing I'm not at work. GO NOAH!


Please please stop writing these things. I hate crying at my computer.

God I love your little boy, and I don't even know you. Noah for president!


Yaaay Noah! What a great post, you must be bursting with pride over your clever boy <3



I would have totally gone out and bought a scooter too. As parents we always have that optimism. So glad he's enjoying it. My DS never goes near his. But he does love the bike with training wheels.


In the last picture, I think the rainbow is perfect! Your little pot of gold at the end of the rainbow!


Thank you for sharing this with us...it's so wonderful to see that big smile on his face!!


That is huge! Go Noah!

Katie Kat

Dammit woman - you always make me cry! But it couldn't be for more awesome and outstanding milestones than when Noah proves what an amazing kid he really is. "Special" and "different" are tossed around like negative tags on kids, but he is proving that they really mean persistent, resilient and amazing. I just love that little man!


Go Noah, Go! I'm so happy for you guys! And holy cow, look at his adorable freakin smile. It breaks my heart into a million tiny happy pieces.

Heather, Queen of Shake Shake

I've learned just because my son can't do some of the things his age-peers do at the same time doesn't mean he CAN'T do it. And to never let a book or "expert" tell me what my kid can't do. Life is full of surprises. Go Noah!


smiling and crying at the same time. so all good, in so many ways.

Shelby Eidson

Peer pressure is sometimes such a wonderful thing!




Tearing up this morning! So happy to hear of Noah's happiness and getting to enjoy being the normal kid he is.


Oh, wow. Go Noah! That's wonderful.


Oh, wow. I started to tear up a little! Awesome, AWESOME!!! And that little tiny rainbow in the corner of the last photo? Even if it is just a little camera/light thingy, very fitting I think!


You must have had big, huge crocodile tears. I'm so happy for all of you.


I think it's the peer pressure from other kids that will force him out of his comfort zone, which is what you're seeing lately. How awesome! See, it can be a GOOD thing, totally opposite of what after school specials have told us all. :-)


Just magic!!! Such a wonderfully awesome post, so great to see the leaps and bounds (and slides around corners!) he's making these days! Yes he can!!

Jessica J.

This is my far my most favorite post ever!
That is amazing. And Noah looks adorable in those pictures.


how. awesome.


What a FABULOUS post!!! I'm so happy for you guys!!!!
YAY NOAH!!!!!!!!!


I have tears in my eyes. Amazing post. :)


YEAH NOAH! And I love the little rainbow breaking thru the last photo - priceless.




This is so wonderful! I got goosebumps and all AWWW at reading this. The pictures are FABULOUS. What a grin!


I started tearing up reading this! Go Noah!!! That is just awesome.


The closer I got to the end of this post, the closer the tears were...then I saw that d@mn rainbow in the last picture and just lost it.

Totally worth crying at work - go Noah!!! Your Mommy rock, BTW. :-)

Cin Ivey

Hi everyone,

What a cute baby! I am going to be a new mom soon, and I'm very concerned about which products should be used with my child. I have always heard that Huggies are the best, but I've also heard that some children don't take well to them. I've been doing some research and I think this site has some great things, especially an offer for a FREE Huggies care package that includes: diapers, baby wipes, changing pads, etc. If you can, please take a look and tell me if this is good. Either way, I know there are new parents out there who can take advantage of this FREE stuff. Take a peek!


I truly do need some help with this as I am a new mother and my maternal instinct has not kicked in yet!



I am so proud of Noah, and of you, for never, never, NEVER giving up on him. Love the rainbow, too.


I'm crying with joy for a little boy and a family I know only through one-sided conversations. I'm so happy for Noah, for him understanding that he can. I'm happy for you and your husband, for seeing this understanding shine from your little boy's face.


Hooray, Noah!! You've got us all crying out here, and how wonderful.

Susan Flaherty

Wow, congratulations!


This post made my day.


I am crying! Such wonderful news! You go Noah! (and good job Mom!)


I don't think I've ever written you a comment. I've been reading for awhile, normally crying after every post, often thinking that I should send you a case of Magic Hat, but they don't really look kindly on sending booze through the mail.

I am so happy for you and for Noah, those photos are amazing. Your story is amazing.

You are the mom and woman I most want to be.


I have been reading your blog for a while but have never commented. Today's entry put a smile on my face! I teach special education preschool and love to hear about moments like this. He looks so happy--can't wait to hear what he finds out he can do next!!


Now I'm just all teary eyed. How totally awesomely thrilling!!!!!

Willow Wright

How wonderful!


Love you all!!


Ditto the happy tears comment.




I am tearing up here. Love the story, so glad to hear that things are progressing.


This is absolutely amazing. It reminds me how much people are capable of, and why putting people in a box is so, so stupid. I love watching Noah do things that are so wonderful, unexpected, and all around amazing. Yay!


Go Noah Go! :)

This was just awesome to read! Thanks for sharing such an amazing story.


He can ... AND HE KNOWS IT. Well done, Noah!!


What a wonderful discovery for him! I felt excited, like I was watching him bloom, too. That has got to give him such a relieving sense of confidence.


I can't explain what it's like to feel so excited for a family that you've never met who live on the other side of the world. You have two of the most gorgeous (and loved)kids around!

The comments to this entry are closed.