My Natural Born Talent, Part Two
Mellencampy

Bunkmates

So, this has been happening:

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Every night, they try to convince us to let them have a sleepover.

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Noah promises me that they'll sleep. Ezra closes his eyes and pretends to snore.

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Ezra cries when we take him back to his room and calls for NONA, NONA. Noah wails that he wants his little brother back because he looooooves him.

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Add in the fact that Ezra's figured out how to escape his crib already, and I think you can see exactly what crazy arrangement we are seriously (AND CRAZILY) considering.

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A big boy bed is imminent, as I really don't see this one being happy with a crib tent. So where to put it?

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Because I have a feeling this is where he'll end up anyway, at least once he masters the doorknob. I know for a fact that this is where he'll be happiest, because it's really only sort of about THE BED, if you know what I mean. 

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They go to bed and wake up at the same times. Ezra takes a nap in the afternoon, but Noah never spends that time in his room anyway because his toys are all elsewhere. 

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But this room is really too small for two beds, and Noah's a year away from the recommended top-bunk age. 

On the other hand, this room is waaaay past due for a makeover anyway. (I MEAN COME ON.) And I'd be lying if I said I wouldn't mind putting Ezra's room to use as an office. Or maybe a nursery again, while we're on the subject of HAREBRAINED CRAZY. 

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I shared a room with my sister when I was this age. We got our own rooms eventually, but I distinctly remember loving the arrangement when I was little. I liked the company. 

And I love that my boys love each other so much. Though I don't know if room-sharing will foster that bond or...have the opposite effect of HE'S TOUCHING ME HE'S BREATHING ON ME HE'S IRRITATING ME WITH HIS MERE EXISTENCE. 

So I'm wondering. Should we give this arrangement a test drive? Should we really possibly even be kidding ourselves about having them share a room, especially since there's no reason they "have" to? And maybe even a bed, and thus kidding ourselves that the end result will be anything other than no sleep and lots of all-night clobbering sessions? Should we look into something like this (only cheaper, my lands) and have Noah move to the top bunk when he's old enough? Figure out how to cram two beds in there, maybe using something like this for Noah and our old toddler bed? Or...you know...wait for them to get completely sick of each other and back requesting their OWN ROOMS and OWN SPACE within a week or so?

P.S. No, Noah doesn't usually sleep in a wifebeater. It was just all I could find because I forgot to take his laundry out of the washer and had to run the load again because it smelled all funny. Which I now realize probably doesn't really make the wifebeater situation any classier. 

Comments

Amy

My three kids spent the whole summer sleeping in one room together, in a pile like puppies. We made them separate now that school has started up again, but my daughter has complained about it every night. I say go for it! (PS: the dreaded IKEA has well-priced bunk bed and loft bed options.)

Peachy

What about a trundle bed type thing until Noah's ready for an actual bunk? You can shove it under Noah's bed during the day, and drag it out for Ez at night, and they'll be right there next to each other, without being in the exact same bed...

Heidi T

I think you should let them room together. I roomed with my sister until we were 10! My son has a twin over full bunk and he does sleep in the top bunk and has for a year and he is only 2 months older than Noah. It depends on the kid. We told Ben the rules and he is a rule follower, so he is good with it. My daughter (7) and Ben have sleepovers all the time in their rooms with each other and I hope that it continues for a while. This is a great time to foster the sibling bond - In a couple years friends will be more important.

Candy

My kids LOVED sharing a room, and they were girl/boy. They each had their own rooms, but slept in the same room as often as I would let them. And now at 20 and 17 they're ridiculously close siblings.

I think they all-night clobber fest will happen a while, and then it will just be where they sleep. It'll settle down.

Jackie

What about a trundle bed? It can be tucked away when not in use to save space but you don't have to worry about the top bunk situation?

Headless Mom

My kids shared up until last year when they were 7 and 9. It was a great set up: I only had one kids' room to clean and they had fun. I'd say do it, but be prepared for Noah to want his own space back eventually.

obabe

my bigger two boys (yes, theres a 3rd boy too) are 26 months apart and as soon as the younger one refused to sleep in his crib, into big bro's room he went at 2 years old.

it wasnt a big deal at all, and theyve been sharing ever since, through a move to a bigger house where they could each have their own bedroom, even. it just works for now. i say go for it, maybe with a toddler bed type thing for ezra?

kim

Room share. Heck, bed share as long as they both fit. Get the bunk bed and keep both of them down below until Noah wants to sleep up top. Or Ezra does. He seems like a top bunk guy.

Random

Two ideas:
One, could the bunk-bed idea perhaps work if you made sure you had one that a) had really good safety rails, and b) you put a bed canopy/tent/thing over the top (thus making it much more difficult to fall out)?
Or, two, what about a trundle bed under an ordinary bed? Pull it out at night so the boys each have their own ground-level bed, and put it away during the day so that there is room to move around and play.

Judi

I shared a room with my brother when we were young and with my sister too at one point. I loved it. And it made me appreciate having my own room as a teenager so much more...

Amalah

I looked into a trundle but Noah's current bed is practically a platform -- only a couple inches off the ground. So that would still require TWO new bed purchases, so I dunno. Maybe.

Brandi

I would let them share a bed for a while and see how it goes before buying furniture. If the whole annoying me with his existance thing doesn't happen then make it a room for two and use Ezra's room for whatever you decide on. Bunk beds are fun, and I also liked the elevated bed with the storage underneath. So you have options depending on how it goes. Can't wait to hear what you decide!

jodifur

I used to sleep on my sisters floor when I was scared at night. I'm not sure what that comment had to do with this post, but that was what it reminded me of.

You could always try it for a little bit, see if it works, and then do the big room makeover.

Michael would go crazy for that StarWars bedding. He really wanted the StarWars backpack but I was not spending $60 on a kindergarten backpack that he would then lose.

@tiffany

My brother and I shared a room until I was about 6-7, at which point it became clear that it was Just Not Going To Work Anymore.

If you're able to test it out for a bit without making any expensive furniture decisions, go for it.

Lauren

Heck, I'd let them share the bed to see if it works out. Save some money and, seriously, is there anything cuter than brothers snuggled up like puppies? I think not.

mc

Boys like to jump from bunk beds. Boys like to push littler boys from bunk beds. My family bunk beds = ER visits. Procede wisely!! Your boys are too cute!

Hey You

Why not just let them co sleep with each other for a year? Then bunks when old enough, and the novelty of being together has worn off. If we have another boy they are totally sharing a room!

Hey You

Why not just let them co sleep with each other for a year? Then bunks when old enough, and the novelty of being together has worn off. If we have another boy they are totally sharing a room!

Liz

Holy crap, when did Ezra go from toddler to KID?! Stop it!

Also, bunk over double is what my sister and I did when we were little until we moved to a bigger house. We adored it. And to this day we have NEVER had a fight.

-erica

My kids started bunking in the same room at 2 and 5. We de-bunked them, but they are in the same room still, at ages 7 and 10. They are now 8 and 11. They started complaining about the top bunk, not sleeping in the same room. Yes, we put the 5 year old on the top bunk. Yes, they both have fallen off the top bunk. Yes, they are both still alive. I consider us lucky that they both are very content with the arrangement and don't keep each other awake. The worst problem is that we tell them to go to their bedroom and get ready for bed, and 30 minutes later they are generally just barely naked and having a pillow fight or something.

LauraC

My four year old twin boys share a room. They had to take a LONG break from each other, about 2.5-3.5 because of the fighting.

My biggest piece of assvice would be to still maintain another room where a kid could optionally sleep. When the giggling and fighting and insanity is out of control, we use the second room as a threat. "You will sleep in the other room if you can't be quiet!" And we'll move on in there if things are crazy. This is also good for puking viruses.

My second piece of assvice is we let the boys have the light on for 15 minutes at bedtime so they can be crazy and talk and giggle and etc. Then at lights out, they have to be quiet.

You never know until you try it.

Maria

I've had my eyes on an Ikea bunk that has a super high rail and isn't too high. But they also have that loft bed that's really low and you can stick a rail on it. The bummer part is that the bottom mattress end up right on the floor so if you have really!allergic kids that might be too dusty but otherwise I think it's kind of a neat bed for doing bunks with kids who aren't' quite at bunk age yet.

I am ALL ABOUT bunking my boys in about a year.

Buggie

When did Ezra start looking like a little boy?

Buggie

When did Ezra start looking like a little boy?

Kate

Ditto the co-sleeping. See how it goes and make a decision later?

Goodness sakes, they could not be any cuter.

Miss Grace

I shared a room with my brother until I was 4, then had to share a room with my sister when I was 14. The first was good and the second was bad.
There are 5 kids in my family and four bedrooms, so:
The room right next my parents' room is the Little Kid bedroom, and that's where I was till I was 4, when I moved into one of the upstairs bedrooms, and all three of us (who were then alive, my older sister, me, brother) had our own rooms. But we'd still sleepover in each other's rooms if we desired.
Then my next brother was born when I was 9, and my two brothers shared a room until my THIRD (and last) brother was born, and my mom declared that all three boys didn't have to share the smallest bedroom in the house, my older sister moved into my room, my immediately-younger-than-me brother moved into my sister's room, and my two youngest brothers shared a room. Suddenly sharing a room w/my 17yo sister at the age of 14 was super jarring and full of bitchy fighting and we didn't get along for YEARS after that. Although we like each other now.
So I'd say it's fine for littles but don't force it on teenagers if it can be avoided?

My youngest brother is the only one still living at home, so he just gets his own room.

I have no idea what help that information was. I suspect ZERO. But there you are.

Kirsty

I wouldn't recommend that last option (the raised bed-storage underneath combo) - kids (in my experience) outgrow those things really quickly. Personally, I'd go down the IKEA route - their bunk beds are cheap and sturdy. Just be careful about bedding: here in France, all bedding (including mattresses) is standard size, whilst IKEA stuff is a different size, so if you buy their beds, you're obliged to buy all your bedding there too. But maybe US sizes are all the same, I don't know, just check first! For the space thing, I'm not sure, so I guess this isn't very helpful.
On the other hand, my two girls (28 months apart, now 8.5 and 6) have shared since the younger one was 9 months old, out of necessity. There are "moments" when I (and they) would love their own rooms, but mostly it works out fine. And there's no prospect of the situation changing any time soon, unless our flat suddenly sprouts another room of its own accord...

Lisa

My boys are 2.5 and 5.5 and share a twin bed. There are other options- the toddler bed is in the same room, and the twin has a trundle under it, but they ALWAYS end up snuggled up in the same bed. They don't always stay on the same end and sometimes they choose to sleep foot to foot, but they are always in bed together by morning. I say just let them do what they are doing and see how it goes.

robyn

at Ikea they used to have a bed that was about as high as the one in the second picture, and it had a SLIDE attachment to it, that also had stairs. climb in with stairs, EXIT BED WITH SLIDE. a slide!

you could totally put a toddler bed, or even just a mattress, underneath it, and then when they got a bit older and didn't want to share rooms anymore the slide bed (A SLIDE!!!) could become Ezra's.

i'm just saying. if i could affix a slide to my bed right now, i would.

Kim

IKEA has something similar to your second link but underneath is open so you can put another mattress there. My boys, age 6 & 8 still share a room - we offered to split them since the older one had been asking for his own room but when it came down to moving he changed his mind and said maybe when I'm 10! We have two of the IKEA beds for them - one sleeps on top of his and the other prefers to sleep underneath.

sarahjane

Ooh timely post. My mom took my boys to Pottery Barn last week to get the bunk beds complete with Star Wars stuff because she is too good to us. At the store the saleslady watched my 3 and 5 year old darlings and pulled my aside, "I could get in trouble for telling you what to purchase, but, Moms with little boys like that return these ALOT due to jumping, pushing type dangers" Stars Wars bedding with trundle bed is what we ended up with. As of now they both sleep on the top bed anyway- trundle has not been used yet. Let them try Noah's bed- it really is just sweet.

Karishma

this is so painfully cute, there aren't even words. my little brother and i are ridiculously close, and we used to do this sleepover type thing even in our teenage years just to bond and bicker and waste time together. we have the sort of sister/brother relationship that parents would kill for, and who knows, anything that fosters closeness can only help. you can definitely find bunk beds that also have a trundle at the bottom, which would solve all related problems until Noah is old enough for a top bunk. with the added bonus that now there's a third bed in the room for when friends come over. win-win-win, right there. i would definitely give it a try, if they're so enthusiastic about it. it's one of those things that can easily be undone later. just put some sort of temp bed in there while you try it out.

Karishma

this is so painfully cute, there aren't even words. my little brother and i are ridiculously close, and we used to do this sleepover type thing even in our teenage years just to bond and bicker and waste time together. we have the sort of sister/brother relationship that parents would kill for, and who knows, anything that fosters closeness can only help. you can definitely find bunk beds that also have a trundle at the bottom, which would solve all related problems until Noah is old enough for a top bunk. with the added bonus that now there's a third bed in the room for when friends come over. win-win-win, right there. i would definitely give it a try, if they're so enthusiastic about it. it's one of those things that can easily be undone later. just put some sort of temp bed in there while you try it out.

Karishma

this is so painfully cute, there aren't even words. my little brother and i are ridiculously close, and we used to do this sleepover type thing even in our teenage years just to bond and bicker and waste time together. we have the sort of sister/brother relationship that parents would kill for, and who knows, anything that fosters closeness can only help. you can definitely find bunk beds that also have a trundle at the bottom, which would solve all related problems until Noah is old enough for a top bunk. with the added bonus that now there's a third bed in the room for when friends come over. win-win-win, right there. i would definitely give it a try, if they're so enthusiastic about it. it's one of those things that can easily be undone later. just put some sort of temp bed in there while you try it out.

Jill

Let them sleep together in the same bed at night. They will carry those memories with them forever. My sister and I are 7 years apart and until I left home for college, we still slept together every night even though we always had our own rooms. A lot of giggling and secret swapping took place and it was great!

Motherhood Uncensored

My 6 year daughter and 3 year old son share a room and have done so for about a year. It's great.

It was mostly temporary until Margot (the 2 year old) was old enough to move in with our oldest. Then we'd move our son out of the pink girl's room (heh) and into his own room.

Problem is, for the most part, he sleeps WAY better with someone else in the room - which is what you'll probably find.

We bought her a trundle bed and he sleeps on the bottom part (which is basically on the floor) and it's great! Granted, my oldest doesn't nap, so I'm not sure how that would work (does Noah even nap? and he's probably in full day school - so ignore that).

Oddly, it hasn't completely eliminated him coming out a few times to say "hello" to us before actually settling, and he does still every now and then wake up scared and come find us, but overall, it's fantastic.

My only gripe: it's nearly impossible for us to let our oldest stay up. He refuses to go to bed without her now, which can be annoying since she's old enough to stay up a little later and watch a movie on a Friday night.

But those are small potatoes.

PS: Our trundle (we got him one too, actually) is from PBK.

Ginnie

Go for it! My girls (4 years apart) started sleeping together after Hurricane Isabel rolled through in 2003, when the youngest was 2. They didn't share a room but did sleep together every night for a long, long time, until the oldest suddenly felt she needed her space.

vanna

i'm all for the sharing with an optional space to retire if needed. my 4 and 5 year old girls share a room and they love it- though there are nights when the big girl just wants to be left alone and SLEEP, and she'll crash in our bed or the guest bed (we put her in her own bed when we go to sleep). the space is tight in their room with 2 twin beds, but we store their clothes in the spare bedroom and the majority of their toys are in the livingroom for now...

Karishma

oh, another slightly weird option that would still work just fine as a stopgap/try it out: just stick his crib mattress in there, on the floor. flip it up against the wall during the day. no purchase necessary while you assess if they can sleep in the same room together! (box springs and bed frames are actually completely unnecessary - they only exist so that beds will look good.)

Lisa

My kids shared a room for many years, at around the ages of yours. They loved it. We made the other room into the playroom, i.e. toy space. That way no mandatory bedtime cleanup, and big sister could close the door on elaborate plastic dog worlds to play with her friends while little brother hung out with mom in the living room. For example.

Kristin

My two youngest do this too. During the school year, I limit them to weekend nights only. There is no stopping it.

catherino

My boys are 2 years apart in age and started sharing a queen bed when they were 2 & 4. They're now 7 & 9 and have graduated from sharing a bed, to bunk beds, to twins - but they still share a room and love it. We've never had the slightest problem with them not going to sleep or staying up to play or getting on each other's nerves - although they certainly do during daylight hours.

I firmly believe they sleep better together and I know it drastically cut down the late night visits they made to wake me up due to a bad dream or something. I say go for it!

sarahjane

One more thing- those PBK Star Wars sheets are sooooft. The $$$ LED Star Wars art is so cool I almost have my husbands convinced the kids need it.

Kate Chaux

I shared with my sister until I was 15, and I liked having the company and that the play was always in "our" room. I was definitely grateful for my own space when I got it, but I liked growing up with her in the same room.

Re: the beds for your guys, the twin over full bunk makes sense. I see those all the time on Craig's List, I'm sure you can pick one up for a WHOLE lot less than PB Kids! I've even seen ones where the full is actually a futon that you can fold up during the day and make more room for play.

Good luck!

Pinkie Bling

I can't get over Ezra in these pictures!! No wonder you had to write the "such a big boy" post!

Pinkie Bling

I can't get over Ezra in these pictures!! No wonder you had to write the "such a big boy" post!

Tina

My two boys started sharing a room when they were 1 & 3. The 3 year old found ways to get in the 1 year old's crib, until they broke it and we got bunk beds. They usually end up sharing a bed because one gets lonely and wants to "'nuggle" the other. If they are too rowdy to fall asleep, one gets moved to our bed until they're both asleep. But usually they do fine. They're already asking when they're baby brother gets to move in, telling me they'll share the top bed and he can sleep on the bottom. Seeing as how the brother is 8 months, we'll wait a bit longer. But they're both small, no reason they can't share a twin bed for awhile. Seriously, amazing how comfortable kids can be. I do think they get lonely and love having company. Oh and bonus! It cut down on the middle of the night waking us up as well!

MS

I shared a room with my sister (20 mo younger) when we stayed with my dad. We both really loved it. Maybe as a $0 test run, stick the crib mattress on the floor in Noah's room and make it up like a "for real" mini-bed? Then maybe let them rock that for a few months to see if this is really reeeeeaaaally what they want longer term.

I wouldn't do the sharing a bed thing, but that's cuz I have memories of my sister being a wild sleeper and kicking me in my sleep. 2 beds+1room=awesomeness. Good luck!

Emily

I say let them sleep in the same bed but look for a bunk like the one on pottery barn kids for when they do eventually want there own beds, or even a trundle bed option. We are only on our first, but my 3 brothers are 13, 11, and 9 and they all shared a room until about 6 months ago when the 13yo requested his own. The other two slept in the same bed until a year ago when the 9yo started using the trundle and they love it! So I say give it a try, worst case, you move them back to their own rooms :)

Trista

Just let them sleep together already and see how it goes before you agonize over any decision. If it goes well and if the boys don't play in their rooms..(like you have a play room) I say go for it. Buy a trundle captian's bed...so you can pull the lower bed out for Ezra at night.

If you keep toys and they play in their rooms, you are looking at trouble. Noah's toys will only get smaller and more complex while Ezra will just play babyzilla on everything.

Laura

i would encourage you to do it. my sister and i shared a room for long after we both could have had our own. when we did eventually get our own rooms, we still often slept in the same bed. we're both in our mid-twenties now and whenever we visit we still share a bed. there's something super comforting about having your sibling close. and it's fun to talk and giggle after lights out.

you could also think of it as extended co-sleeping that doesn't invovle any little elbows or heels in any of your senstive places :)

de

My friends have this little set up from Ikea - http://www.ikea.com/us/en/catalog/products/10123996 It's great! Little man on the top (he's 4) and then littlest one on the bottom with a mattress. Eventually it can be flipped to make the bed higher, and into a single bed with option to add a tent! It's not as high as a normal bunk bed. So if the bunk doesn't work out, you have a bed already for Ezra. Anyway, just a thought. IKEeeeA! Good luck!

Dr. Maureen

Go for it! I say just let them both sleep in Noah's bed for now. You can always buy a new bed later, right? And maybe this arrangement will work and you can save the money! I'm speaking from someone with a two-bedroom place and two kids who share and it's fine. Granted, they are 3 and 1 and a boy and a girl, so it's different, but I'm also speaking as someone who shared with 2 sisters for years and years and it was all fine.

Amy

My two boys (8 and 6) share a room and always have. They each have their own beds, but many nights one crawls in to snuggle with the other and they stay like that the whole night.

When boy #2 moved from a crib to a twin bed, it was chaotic because he figured since he was free, it was playtime. Once he got over that, it's been fine ever since.

They don't have compatible sleep needs or styles (one thrashes around like he's doing sleep-gymnastics), but they never wake each other up.

Jenn

two things:
1) my girls (5 and 3) share a room and have for over 2 years. They love it. We started out with a crib and a bed, and then a bed and its trundle. Now the trundle is permanently out and up because the whole pull it out, put it away routine grew tiresome.

2) I saw it scattered in the comments, but IKEA has a really neat low-to-the-ground bunk bed set-up for little ones. And I hear it's not too pricey....

Did I say 2 things?
I meant 3.

3) I always tell people considering the option of having kids share a room-- the first few nights are hard because, "OMG! My sibling is Right. There.!!!!!" But then the novelty wears off. And they go to sleep.

The end.

agirlandaboy

I shared a room with my little brother until I was 8 and absolutely loved it. Yes, there was a lot of non-sleeping (because we were singing and telling stories and making shadow puppets on the walls), and although I don't know if that bothered my parents, I do know that it made for a lot of nice memories for us kids.

Try it out. You can always separate them again if you need to.

Genevieve

I can't offer advice or opinion on this (my first is due any day now), but it really seems like a wonderful "problem" to have. How great that your sweet boys love each other so much!

Genevieve

I can't offer advice or opinion on this (my first is due any day now), but it really seems like a wonderful "problem" to have. How great that your sweet boys love each other so much!

Kathleen

No time to read all the comments, but two thoughts:
A friend of mine did well with her two in this bed:
http://www.ikea.com/us/en/catalog/products/10123996
She just put a toddler mattress on the floor underneath for her littler one. I don't know if the lower bed makes Noah legal now?

Otherwise, would a trundle for E be an option?

Kathleen

Sorry, "No time" was meant as an apology in case I'm being redundant.

Kathleen

Sorry, "No time" was meant as an apology in case I'm being redundant.

Laura

Another vote for rooming together. I'm the only girl, so I always had my own room, but my 4 (yes, FOUR) brothers shared a room with two bunkbeds until the oldest was 11. They always had grand adventures swinging from the beds like a horde of monkeys, and get along well to this day.

If Noah's bed is too low for trundling, you could lift it with bed risers:

http://www.amazon.com/Bed-Risers-Black-Set-4/dp/B0010KXDUI

sheilah

I think putting them in the same room is a great idea. How cool that they love each other so much! The problem is if (more likely when) they want their own rooms, then you will have to lose your (now YOUR) office (sob! sob!).

(haven't read too many of the comments, but i think trying it out for a while is probably a good idea...)

Elonda

Due to an unexpected surprise (baby #3) my girls got bunk beds at 3 1/2 and 1 1/2. The bed had a full with storage drawer under it (LOVE IT) and a twin on top. It has worked out really well.

Carolyn

Why not just give it a shot as is for a few weeks before making any big decisions? There's no sense in buying new furniture or redecorating before anything has been decided, and the only way to see how this would work out is if you just give it a go! If they're both happy for now sharing a bed, why not let them share a bed? And if the novelty of it wears off in a week, then no harm, no foul!

Brooke

My almost-5 year old boy and almost-2 year old girl share a room, and have for almost a year now, actually at his request after months of nightmares and other sleep issues. They both love it, though we have found that they have trouble falling asleep (the littlest recently switched to a big-girl bed and doesn't yet understand the 'rules' of staying in your own bed, hence keeping the oldest awake), so we often put the older one to bed in our room and move him once she has fallen asleep. Naptimes are similar. It's really not a big deal - and they often play together in the mornings quietly and let us get an extra few minutes of laying-around time on the weekends before they wake us.

Brooke

My almost-5 year old boy and almost-2 year old girl share a room, and have for almost a year now, actually at his request after months of nightmares and other sleep issues. They both love it, though we have found that they have trouble falling asleep (the littlest recently switched to a big-girl bed and doesn't yet understand the 'rules' of staying in your own bed, hence keeping the oldest awake), so we often put the older one to bed in our room and move him once she has fallen asleep. Naptimes are similar. It's really not a big deal - and they often play together in the mornings quietly and let us get an extra few minutes of laying-around time on the weekends before they wake us.

Amber

I have no kids, and therefore no advice re: the sleeping situation, but I just wanted to say that this may well be the most adorable thing I've seen all week :)

Tracy

as for the shirt, at least he's wearing one. I gave up on even putting the cute pj tops on my little guy once I figured out that he was taking them off as soon as he could. Why have to launder something that was going to be worn for 10 minutes a night? We save them for hotels and grandma's house now :-).

Becki

Let them share! They will bond.

You will have an extra room and most importantly only ONE room gets trashed when they become teens.

(Will NEVER forget how my twin bros room stank. . .NEVER.. also damaged everything because of hijinks and rough housing.)

Mrs Soup

I say as long as they are happy, there is nothing wrong with having them share a bed! Or do a trundle if you want them to have their own spaces....but they are happy! Let them share the bed! Back in the day, whole families shared one big bed....who cares!

Callie

I say go for it. We’ve been co-sleeping hippies since our son was born (he is now two) and it’s worked out great. I think humans are designed to want to be near someone when they sleep. It’s a very vulnerable state when you think about it, so it’s only natural to want to have some company. If it doesn’t work, what have you lost?

Kristin

Two things: Changing the sheets on a bunk bed is a pain in the ass. Also, I got my daughter's $1000+ pottery barn twin bed on craigslist for $300 so definitely worth watching!

Elizabeth

sharing a room builds character. Do it.

Tonia

My 7- and 4-year-old girls have shared a bed since the younger was 19 months old. They both slept better and stayed in bed better once they were together. Of course, we're in a 2-bedroom apartment and they now share their room with the 21-month-old in her crib, so we're now trying to decide if we're crazy enough to attempt 3 in a bed soon.

BTW, the almost-5-year-old saw these pictures and immediately started having fits about Noah's ladybug PillowPet - they both want a unicorn and have chosen the ladybug for baby sister. It remains to be seen if Grandmama is going to make this happen. :-)

Tonia

My 7- and 4-year-old girls have shared a bed since the younger was 19 months old. They both slept better and stayed in bed better once they were together. Of course, we're in a 2-bedroom apartment and they now share their room with the 21-month-old in her crib, so we're now trying to decide if we're crazy enough to attempt 3 in a bed soon.

BTW, the almost-5-year-old saw these pictures and immediately started having fits about Noah's ladybug PillowPet - they both want a unicorn and have chosen the ladybug for baby sister. It remains to be seen if Grandmama is going to make this happen. :-)

Heidi

Am I the only one wondering if the "turn Ezra's room into a nursery again" is a precursor to a Major Announcement?

Perhaps I am just the suspicious type.

Maggie

I would love my girls to share a room, but my 9 year old won't have it :( My 4 year old would be in HEAVEN. The older sis only allows the little sis to sleep with her when she is feeling especially generous, which since the tween years are hitting, is less and less frequent. I say GO FOR IT!

Like other commenters, my 4 year old sleeps in a loft bed (IKEA) which has a pretty high rail with no problems. http://www.ikea.com/us/en/catalog/categories/departments/childrens_ikea

Maggie

I would love my girls to share a room, but my 9 year old won't have it :( My 4 year old would be in HEAVEN. The older sis only allows the little sis to sleep with her when she is feeling especially generous, which since the tween years are hitting, is less and less frequent. I say GO FOR IT!

Like other commenters, my 4 year old sleeps in a loft bed (IKEA) which has a pretty high rail with no problems. http://www.ikea.com/us/en/catalog/categories/departments/childrens_ikea

Jodi

My girls are just over two years apart (3 and 5) and are best of friends . . . they play together every minute of every day BUT they each have their own rooms. While I shared a room with my sister growing up, I like that my girls have their own space though, again, they are together every WAKING moment. On vacations, they share a room and sometimes a bed and love it. They're both such good sleepers and I would be afraid to "go backwards" with regard to sleep. Yes, I know kids all around the world share rooms with siblings. Heck, I did. However, when they do sleep together (which they did for a month this summer at the shore), they giggle and goof around for a couple of hours before falling asleep whereas when they are alone, they fall asleep within minutes. Sleep trumps fun in my book.

liz

Go for it!

Valerie

I shared a room with my sister until I was 6 and she was 8 -- even through me being a teeny baby. It was totally fine. In fact, once we had our own rooms, we often begged our mom to let us share again.

Lindsay

OMG! They're getting so big! :) You gotta have another. Your babies are just too stinking cute. :)

Lindsay

OMG! They're getting so big! :) You gotta have another. Your babies are just too stinking cute. :)

AmyinTexas

Though my 10 yr old son and 8 yo old daughter have their own rooms, they prefer to sleep in her room (him on the trundle). And if we are really looking for a reason to stick forks in our eyeballs, we'll agree to let the 3 yr old sleep in there as well.

The goofing off comes and goes... they'll be great for a week, and I'll think they're over the giggling, and then it will start again. I threaten a lot... not that it does any good. But, in the end I generally allow the sleeping situation b/c some days the hour of goofing off at bedtime is the nicest they've been to each other all day... and I think that is buying them good sibling karma down the road.

(Should note that this arrangement really only works in the summer and on weekends for us. I don't put up with much crap on school nights. If there's goofing off going on, they are separated after a warning.)

Lexiloo

Didn't have time to read all the comments, so might duplicate. I'm in love with this. Good idea, too expensive for sure, but maybe there's a cheaper way to do it. My boys love to sleep in the same room, too. And hey, extra room for an office?

erin

When we found out my 2nd was going to be another boy and it was time for my 1st to move into a big bed, we got bunk beds. A Twin over Full. The older one sleeps on both top and bottom - whichever he feels like that night. We always anticipated that they'd share a room, especially if we want a 3rd baby someday. The 2nd boy is only 19 months and he's happy in the crib right now, but I have a feeling he'll be on the bottom and my older will be on the top bunk soon.

tasterspoon

Sharing a room is a wonderful idea. I imagine the giggling and squirming would die down once it became routine. I'm hoping to have multiple kids, and if we're so fortunate, to have them share a room, even if we have an extra room.

Dunno if you read Ohdeedoh, but there was recently a question about bunkbeds (and trundles also came up in the comments).
http://www.ohdeedoh.com/ohdeedoh/good-questions/are-bunk-beds-safegood-questions-124456

I never had anything larger than a twin until I was 26 so the twin over double looks indulgent but also like it has longevity and would be practical for sleepovers. Unless boys become squeamish about sharing a bed with their friends after a certain age...

Chrissy

I'm sorry, what was your question again? I was too distracted by two very happy and beautiful little boys!

Sarah

Until I read that Noah's bed was not high enough, I was going to suggest using a mattress as a trundle substitute until you knew what you really wanted/could use. How about putting the crib mattress on the floor, made up as a little bed to see how that works for a while before you invest in anything else? My brothers had bunk beds years ago, and it was a recipe for trouble for sure, with the top a highly desirable fort by day that had to be defended and periodic refusals by anyone to sleep in the bottom bunk--and periodic unsceduled exits from the top.

Kathleen

I agree with the other people and recommend the trundle bed. We had them and LOVED them. All that floor space during the day, but we were together at night. There are two big benefits -- the first is that if you roll off the top bed, you just fall onto the trundle bed, so it's not a big fall like a bunk bed. Second, the trundle bed has a mattress that sits inside, meaning there is a lip all around the bed so toddlers don't fall out. I like it more than a little toddler bed with the safety rail. Good luck with your decision -- your boys are adorable.

Elizabeth

My sister & I shared a queen sized bed from the time she was about Ezra's age until she was 11, and I was 13. (It's probably pretty obvious, but I insisted on my own room & privacy at that point. Also, she didn't get kicked out of our shared room, I moved into another room.) My parents' home had 5 bedrooms, so it wasn't from a lack of space or beds. Sarah wanted me to protect her from nightmare bears, and I wanted her to protect me from nightmare robbers. We had great conversations as we were falling asleep, and Sarah even referenced our "what will our wedding dresses look like?" recurring conversation in her maid-of-honor speech. Some people react like it was weird for us to sleep in the same bed, which I just don't get. It was IMO one of the best parts of having a sister who is close in age to me.

Alicia

You could try a bunk or trundle, but don't be surprised if they sleep together anyway. We bought a twin over full bunk bed, but both our boys (6 and 3) share the bottom full. The top lies empty. On the rare occasion 6 wants to sleep up top, I arrive the next morning to find 3 up there with him, age restrictions be damned. Now that we have a third boy, I wonder if he'll pile in with the other two when he's older.

kris

Aside from - oh what cute little people they are - my first thought was Why is Noah wearing a wifebeater? And I know the forgotten laundry smell well.

Some kids love sharing rooms some don't. I think my younger one would love it but my older likes his space. But they mostly play in big brothers room which is where all the legos reside. Throw an air mattress or crib mattress on the floor next to Noah's bed and give it a test run.

kris

Oh and I eye that star wars room every time the Pottery Barn catalogue comes.

Jamie

Dude, my boys (9 and 6) sleep in their underwear in the summer! Sometimes soccer shorts over them, but most often not. They have the cutest boxer-brief butts!

I think a trial bed sharing would be a good idea. Cute that they like each other so much right now.

Kim

Such lovely pictures of brothers, but where's Ezra? That kid in the pictures can't be him. I agree with everyone else: test run with the crib mattress and go from there. Oh, and definitely Star Wars bedding on any bed you decide to get.

Darra

Those little stinkers. Their big grins crack me up.

eva

I can't wait for my daughter and her soon to be born sister to be begging for sleepovers! We definitely plan to have them share a room for as much of their childhoods as they'll tolerate, once #2 is sleeping through the night. Good luck and let your boys have fun and bond!

ALEXE

my kids have slept in the same room since the youngest was sleeping through the night (or close enough). I love it. They love it. We have a guest room. What's not to love? Sure, they act like crazy monkeys at bedtimes some nights, but hey, that's what you do with your best friend.

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