Over, Part Two
March 18, 2011
My mom just called. After multiple blood and platelet transfusions this week, my dad's numbers were the lowest they've ever been. Hemoglobin at 6. Platelets at 10.
So no more chemo, for real this time. No more transfusions. No more. He's enrolled in hospice.
The prognosis is two months.
I'm due in two and a half.
I'm so sorry for you.
Amy, I'm so sorry.
I have no idea what to say, but I just want to let you know that a reader out here is praying for your family and sending positive thoughts.
We are thinking of all of you guys.
I hope your boys remember to hug you just a little tighter over the next two months.
I am so sorry, for all of you.
May you find some solace and comfort in these last days together.
Oh, honey, I'm so sorry. Thoughts and prayers are with you.
Oh god. I'm so sorry. I'm thinking of you.
I am so sorry. So, so so sorry.
Ah man, I'm so sorry. I lost a family member to cancer a year and a half ago after a 19-year battle of her hearing "six months left" or "three months now" regularly. At that point, it was almost a relief, but the advanced knowing never makes it any easier.
Amy,
I am so, so sorry. Thinking about you and your family.
I'm so so sorry. Thinking of all of you. Hang in there.
I am so sorry. Praying for you and your family. If anyone can fight and hold on just a little longer it sounds like your dad certainly can.
I'm so sorry. I mean, I know the chemo really really sucked and in a perverse way it's good to be done with it. But obviously we all wish there was a miraculous prognosis, and I'm really sorry that there is not. Virtual hugs to you and your family. I hope you are able to find some joy and peace in the time you have together.
I'm so sorry..
FUCK cancer.
Based on the stories you've shared, I believe your Dad will meet the new baby boy. I'm praying that I'm right.
Hugs and light and love to you and your family.
I'm so,so very sorry.
Just so sorry. Sending good thoughts to you.
I'm so sorry. Thinking of you.
I'm so sorry Amy. I read your blog all the time and rarely comment. My dad passed away 7 years ago from lung cancer. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
Oh, man. I'm so sorry. I don't even know what else to say.
I'll be praying that he comfortably hangs on a little longer than expected.
Peace, Amy.
I am so sorry. I know there's nothing to say to make you feel better so here's a video of a slow loris: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rLdQ3UhLoD4
I am so sorry. I know those words will be repeated to you over and over, but I don't know what else to say.
oh god! my heart is aching for your family! I am so sorry for today's news. so very sorry.
*HUGS*
Praying.
God. Well you never know timewise. Your family is so loving, you have that strength to go with. I'll say an amateur's prayer for you all.
I'm so, so sorry. Hugs to your family.
I am so very sorry about your dad, Amy. My thoughts are with you and your family.
:(
I'm so sorry.
I've followed along, because I've been going through a similar situation with my mom, and so many times you wrote the words I've been thinking. I'm so sorry; there are no words to describe how it feels to watch a parent go through something like this. Thinking of you.
My thoughts are with you and your family Amy.
Holding y'all in the light and hoping for all the time that you need and, if that's not an option, as much as you can have.
Oh, SHIT.
I am so sorry to hear this.
Oh god, Amy. There are no words. I hate that they give you those "two weeks" or "six months" predictions. We don't know. People are diagnosed, given a year to live, and die the next week. Others are given six months and 15 years later they're still kicking. He is probably not going to get well. We are all dying of something, and I've been trying to come to grips with my own mortality since an illness in January left me with 40% lung capacity and an oxygen tank which is my new best friend. But to tell you two months seems hard to me. Especially with you due in two and a half. Doctors can not know these things. They can make sometimes accurate predictions but nobody really knows, and perhaps your dad will last another four months and get to hold the new little boy. We can always hope. Never give up hoping until it's all over.
I'm so sorry. And I'm praying for you. And...cancer sucks a fat one. *hugs*
I'm so sorry, Amy.
So sorry. Thinking of you and your family.
Oh, Storches, I'm so very sorry. Thinking of you, and hoping for peace and comfort for everyone in your family.
Oh Amy - I'm so sorry. Loads of love and hugs to you all. X
I'm so sorry Amy.
I am so sorry - praying for all of you. God Bless.
I'm so so sorry.
mother fuck pisser. i want it to turn out well for you, i really do.
Oh Amy I am so sorry. As someone that has walked this walk already, I am so sorry.
I wish I could take the pain away, Amy. It's a battle that is so shitty for everyone.
My dad was like yours in that he was so ready to battle the hell out of his cancer. His prognosis was 1 week to 1 year, which was baffling to us. He made it 1 year and 3 days, probably just to prove them wrong.
I am so sorry...my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family...so so sorry :(
Prayers to all of you. I'm so very sorry.
Oh honey, I'm so sorry.
Prayers for you and yours.
My heart is breaking for you and your family. Thank you for being brave and sharing it with us.
I'm so sorry, Amy.
Amy,
I am so sorry. My younger son was born one week after his father died. It's very surreal. I hope that your father will meet your new baby. Truly so sorry for your pain.
There are no words. I'm so sorry.
I'm so sorry, my heart aches for you and your family.
Oh my heart goes out to you. I lost my mom 4 weeks before my first child was born...a son that everyone says is the spitting image of my mom. Stay as strong as you can but know you can break down and sob. No one will mind. Your children, even the new baby, will comfort you, trust me, it's a surprise how much they will.
You and your family are in our hearts, thoughts and prayers. May your father see his next grandson, and may you all have peace and joy.
Hugs & thinking about you.
I wish you, your father, and your family well, Amy. So sorry to hear this news.
Fuck. I'm so sorry.
Oh Amy, I am so sorry. Just remember, he is quite the fighter. Hoping for the best.
Oh, Amy. Big hugs. Hurting for you guys.
Oh Amy, I'm so sorry. I really want to type more, but as I sit here and try to think of what to say everything sounds empty and just not enough, so I'll leave it at that. I'm so, so sorry.
Long-time reader, first-time commenter. I am so sorry. I am thinking of your whole family. I lost my Dad before my first daughter was born. I wish you strength and peace in the days ahead.
Damn. I will be praying for you all.
Thinking of you. That really fucking sucks. Hugs.
Oh Amy, I'm so sorry. Hugs, prayers, and vibes for you and your family during this time.
Blergh. That is awful. Sending good thoughts your way.
I am so sorry.
Oh dear. I'm so sorry to hear this. Know that prognoses are not always right. Lord knows it could go both ways - fingers crossed for you and your family that they're short by many, many months. And if not, you know how much your dad already loves your third little hellion, even if they never meet in person. :)
My heart aches for you. I am so, so sorry.
So, so sorry. Thoughts & prayers going out for you & your family.
I am so sorry to hear that. You've been so courageous in posting about it here. Your dad must be really proud of you.
My heart goes out to you. My father was just diagnosed with advanced pancreatic cancer this week. He sees the oncologist today and I'm sitting here right now waiting for the phone call that will tell me how long they think he has left. Like you, I have 2 little boys who are going to never really know how great a man their grandfather was.
Oh man, that is rough news. I'm so sorry.
I'm so sorry Amy. So sorry.
My grandmother was given a day to a month at the beginning of January.
She passed away a week and a half ago - 1.5 months longer then predicted.
I'm thinking of you, and hoping.
Thinking of you and yours. I'm so sorry.
Oh Amy, I am SO sorry.
This sucks, and sorry doesn't begin to cover it. Chemo sucks, worst four months of my life was watching my mom go through it. Losing your dad to such a horrible disease is indescribeable. I am so incrediby sorry.
I'm so, so sorry. Know that a lot of strangers out there are wishing you well and thinking of you often.
So very sorry, Amy. Thinking of you and your family.
Oh Amy. I am so sorry. There are just no words. Hold on to your family and love each other as much as possible. This is so hard.
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. I know this is a hard thing to go through and I wish I could offer more than prayers and virtual {{{{Hugs}}}}
Sending love and hugs and hope that you get more time.
Amy, I'm so sorry. SO sorry.
I am so sorry. Many loving thoughts for you and yours.
I'm so sorry to hear this. Sending prayers and peaceful thoughts to you and your family.
Sending love and positive thoughts.
Will pray for a miracle. Keep your chin up and cherish every moment you have.
Oh, Amy. That is so sad :(
I'm so sorry Amy. If there's a bright side at all, perhaps it's that your immense pain in losing your dad will be closely followed by immense joy in welcoming your baby boy. Still, I'm heartbroken for you. Much love to you and your family.
My heart just aches for you.
Thinking of you, and wishing for the best, whatever that is. Hugs for all of you!
Oh, honey. I wish I could give you a hug.
I am so sorry. So very sorry.
Amy, I'm so so sorry. It's a hard road but I can assure you that you will be okay. Okay will mean something different, but it's a version of "okay". thinking of you...
Oh shit. I'm so sorry Amy. So very, very sorry. Thinking about you all...
I'm so sorry. *hugs*
So very sorry. Thoughts and prayers are with you.
Goddammit, cancer. Just goddammit.
Hoping beyond hope for you all that they're wrong about the months. I wish there were something I could say to ease any of it. Just know you are loved by a whole bunch of crazy internet.