The Book of Jackass
Great Storch Family Tornado of Destruction Summer Tour 2013

Sounding the Everything Is Okay Alarm For the Millionth Time

So I wrote about four sentences' worth of an entry yesterday, an entry I didn't really WANT to write but simply didn't know what ELSE to write: My mom was in the hospital. She'd been in the hospital since Friday. They didn't really know what was wrong and the tests were starting to creep up into the realm of OH SHIT.

(At least according to ME. My mom was like, "whatever, I'm FINE.")

And so I finally caved and figured that writing a blog entry telling the Internet about it was a slightly better use of my time than all the WebMD Googling I was doing, Dramablogging may be ill-advised at times, but my Internet browsing history was becoming a full-on experiment in terror, so I figured I better let it out.

I only wrote four sentences because — as you may have surmised by all the past tense I'm using — that was when my mom called to report that the tests all came back normal and she was free to go home in just a few hours. Okay then! 

And so we can add this incident to my upcoming bestselling self-help book, tentatively titled "The Power of Bloggable Thinking: 400 Times I Complained to the Internet About Things Only To Have That Thing Magically Resolve Itself Within the Next 24 Hours."

(Is that title too long? Maybe I should just call it "If You Blog It, Your Kid Will Up & Do the Opposite So For the Love of God Don't Tell the Internet That He Slept Through the Night.")

(DAMMIT.)

This was — thankfully, ever so very much thankfully — my mom's first health issue/hospitalization in a really long time, and thus far it still doesn't seem to be anything too serious. (She's a breast cancer survivor, as you may/may not remember, so she knows a little something about how to kick illness in the ass.) It was also the first health issue/hospitalization she's had since my dad died, and thus it was the first time I had to stop my brain from leap-frogging over the millions of treatable, totally-not-serious conditions she could have and going directly to OMFG ORPHANHOOD. 

I didn't do a really good job at that last bit, obviously. 

The idea of it happening again, all over again, is just...nope. Nope nope nope. Not even. Not going to. LA LA LA LA LA. I know it's happened to many of you — so many of you who have shared your stories and grief with me over the past few years in the comments and over email have lost not just one, but both parents. Plus a beloved in-law or grandparent or sibling or best friend or or and and. And I feel kind of stupid even bringing this heavy, downer of a subject up because 1) HELLOOOO, MY MOM IS FINE, and 2) DID I MENTION THAT SHE IS FINE? BECAUSE FINE.

Anyway, I (obbbbbviously) am just rambling at this point and am not sure where I'm going with this. It was stressful and scary for a couple days there and I let myself get a little too consumed with this feeling that the stakes were even higher, because AGAIN: NOPE. Not you, Mom. You're the one I've got left and you're not allowed. You're not allowed. NOW GET OUT OF THE HOSPITAL AND GO TO YOUR ROOM. also i promise to call and visit more because gaaahhhh

So this is possibly something I need to Work On As A Person or maybe just Mash Down Into Silent Submission Of Anxiety-Related Denial for awhile. (Or embrace one of the lessons of BOM: turn it off turn it off like a liiiiiiight switch.) But thankfully for now: Sorry, cancer. Not this time. And as always, a hearty and heartfelt Fuck you

Comments

Maxine Dangerous

Glad she's okay! (This concludes your vast understatement for the day. Please try back tomorrow for more soothing sentiments.) :)

Siobhan

So glad she's ok! I you get it. My dad had a blood clot in both lungs last month and I freaked the fuck out. Even after he was better I freaked out again because I saw the beloved Dennis Farina,who was only a little older than my dad, died from the exact same thing my dad had. So then I realized that he really could have died, like for real, and was a blubbering mess for a couple more days.

Slightly off topic but you brought it, Turn it Off is my favorite song from BOM. Well in addition to Hello!, All-American Prophet, and I Believe. Ok, I love all of them. You may appreciate this. I bought the BOM soundtrack as soon as it came out a couple years ago and instantly memorized it. Like a month later I went to a Mormon wedding and at the beginning of the service they introduce a guest missionary speaker who's there all the way from Uganda! I nearly died. I had to bite my tongue so hard so I wouldn't lose it. And then I look at my sister who has also been listening to it and she's doing the same thing. And we both almost lose it again when we look at each other. Mostly I couldn't believe that the missionaries are actually successfully converting Ugandans.

Kristy

My mom has had (and recovered from fully) two strokes AND is a breast cancer survivor. I freak out when she goes in for a routine checkup. So. I totally get you on this one. Happy to hear that your mom is fine!

Claire

Really glad she's ok xxx

Carrie

Um, those last 3 sentences --- thank you.

supertiff

nothing, i mean NOTHING raises an unswallowable lump in my throat like thinking about something happening to someone's mom, anywhere, ever. moms should be declared sacred territory, and should never be allowed to be sick or hurting or crying, or...you know, not with us anymore. glad yours is ok, and, note to ALL MOMS EVERYWHERE: just stay put, guys. we need you.

Brigette

Glad she is doing all right!!

Barb

Glad she's home. Go visit. ASAP

Katie

Oh man, I ABSOLUTELY get the 'LA LA LA' 'don't want to hear it' bit... I do NOT know, and DO NOT WANT to know how I will deal with 'it' when 'it' happens... Nope, not me either, thank you very much :-((((

Amanda

My momma is about the same age. My dad has been gone over 10 years and I still get all PTSD'y over stuff since my mom had and successfully recovered from a stroke.

jelourai

Hugs, and I'm so glad she's okay.

tresss

So SO glad she's ok. I had breast cancer a few years ago and I so know that panicky feeling of "oh no not again". Google is a blessing most of the time but also a very big curse/the devil during times like this.

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